rweb7 Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 I'll keep this as short as i can for you guys: 1st date - coffee, little quiet and awkward, but alright 2nd date - dinner, talked for 4 hours straight, had a great time. 3rd date - walk, we took a walk at a local park. It was pretty nice. I teased her a bit and we laughed. It was an okay time 4th date - movies, we saw a movie. Obviously it wasn't a talk-filled night, but we talk like we've known each other for years, which is good. Now I've planned a 5th date with her for Tuesday; she's coming to my house for dinner and to watch a movie when she gets off work. I plan to give her flowers, have them out on the table, dress nice, candles too. You know, just to make it nice and romantic. But i'm unsure on how i should act on this date. We've been talking everyday for the last week now but at this point in time, we have not made any physical contact with each other, with exception to a hug i gave her after the movies just to make some kind of physical contact; but it was awkward and i doubt she wanted to hug me in the first place. This is where I got a bit weird. She kept throwing around "friend" casually for the last few days prior. So i asked her after the movies: "am i your type of guy?" (i know it was an weird and awkward question, but i had to know if I was, to her, a friend or potential boyfriend..) she then kinda ignored it, and mention our dating "was going". Not sure what exactly that means. When i got home, I texted her saying I had a good night, thank you, etc. So 4 dates later, i felt obliged to ask if she was dating anyone else besides me. She then said she wasn't and she was only dating me. I feel that she has no love interest for me.. I don't wanna screw around. She's a nice girl, we have lots in common - we really connect, but i'm serious about getting a girlfriend and don't like being "dragged along". I flirt with her when I can. Even though we talk everyday, i call her a couple times a week, and she even quickly agreed to spend the day with me last week. She seems to enjoy being around me - we talk all the time now, and she said she would like to see me again soon, plus seeing I've hit the 5th date. What should i do for our upcoming dinner date to 'get things going' ? Something like sharing a blanket and sitting shoulder-to-shoulder next to her, be good? How should I treat my little dilemma? Or am i over-thinking and should take things slow? Could she be taking things slow with me? I'd appreciate all the advice/experiences you could share with me. As you can see I don't date much.. I could be over-thinking and expecting to much too. I should mention she is an 18 year old college girl and i'm 19 (working on the college part ha ha) Thanks!
Phantom888 Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 I was reading this and was wondering why you were moving so slow... but then at the end you mentioned how young you guys are and I thought OH OK. This is perfectly nice... getting to know one another and developing a good friendship. If she didn't like you romantically, she wouldn't want a 5th date or even come to your home. I think you have something great to look forward to. I think you should try for the kiss. Do it after dinner while you are having a good chat. Make sure you smell good. I think this pace is good for young people like yourselves. Just get into it naturally and don't rush. If you were in your late 20s or 30s, I would say you are moving too slowly. People my age (39) generally have sex by around the 3rd date because we are mature enough to know what we are looking for. But at your age, it's definitely nice to take it slower to build confidence and experience. Best of luck.
d0nnivain Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 For heaven's sake, kiss the girl. She is throwing the word friend around because after 4 dates you haven't made a move, she thinks you don't like her. Most college boys would have been trying to get into her pants the 1st night. My husband waited until our 3rd date to kiss me or give me the opportunity to kiss him. I was soooooo frustrated. If he hadn't kissed me that night, I was fully prepared to break up with him.
Author rweb7 Posted November 17, 2013 Author Posted November 17, 2013 For heaven's sake, kiss the girl. She is throwing the word friend around because after 4 dates you haven't made a move, she thinks you don't like her. Most college boys would have been trying to get into her pants the 1st night. My husband waited until our 3rd date to kiss me or give me the opportunity to kiss him. I was soooooo frustrated. If he hadn't kissed me that night, I was fully prepared to break up with him. She's not giving me the signs for me to give her a kiss. At the end of the date it's usually like: "I had a fun time, thanks, seeya!" Should I ask her for a kiss in this situation?
d0nnivain Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 What about in the middle of the date? Do you get lost in each other's eyes? At this the 5th date I think you have to try. Really if you don't this relationship will never progress.
odin673 Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 She's not giving me the signs for me to give her a kiss. At the end of the date it's usually like: "I had a fun time, thanks, seeya!" Should I ask her for a kiss in this situation? I wouldn't ask. It looks weak. Just go for it. Give her notice that it's coming. If she doesn't reciprocate, you will know where the relationship stands. 1
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