singme2sleep Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 (edited) Tonight I was working out in my room, and feeling better about myself. Afterword I started to put away the exercise mat, when I stopped to glance in the mirror. I took a deep breath then looked at myself up and down. I have gotten fitter and changed my style a bit since the breakup so in a way I'm not the same girl my ex left behind. I smiled and thought "I'll be fine, he's the idiot for throwing our relationship away. He doesn't deserve me but eventually I will meet somebody who does." So as silly as it sounds, I stood there and gave the person in the mirror, a pep-talk... I said "You are beautiful. You have a kind heart. You are worthy of strong and unwavering love from a guy will always be there no matter what. You will find that guy or he'll find you. Have faith because life goes on" It felt good and I'm going to say things like that everyday until I believe it completely. Anyway I just wanted to share this and hopefully others who are struggling with their breakup, will try it too. I am done being my ex's victim, his loss! Edited November 17, 2013 by singme2sleep 12
AZtragedy Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 this is such a great post....thank you for writing this, because this is exactly what I need to do, also. even though I have been working out for years, I have stepped it up even more over the last 6 weeks, mostly out of a need to get some relief from all the stress...but when I look at myself, I also think "a real fool would leave all this behind".... this is very encouraging, what you wrote, and I am going to start thinking and telling myself this. It would be a great step in regaining some of the self-confidence and self-esteem that she brutally stole from me. Thank you. 6
Thierro Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 I think it's wonderful you feel this way. You sound proud of yourself and that makes me glad. "I'll be fine, he's the idiot for throwing our relationship away. He doesn't deserve me but eventually I will meet somebody who does." Eventually you'll stop thinking he's an idiot and not care whatsoever. 2
Author singme2sleep Posted November 18, 2013 Author Posted November 18, 2013 I'm glad that my post has encouraged others. Why should we feel sorry for ourselves when our exes are the ones who screwed up?! They made the choice to abandon the people who loved them the most, all we did was love them. 1
AZtragedy Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 I'm glad that my post has encouraged others. Why should we feel sorry for ourselves when our exes are the ones who screwed up?! They made the choice to abandon the people who loved them the most, all we did was love them. This is exactly right. Speaking for myself, I did nothing wrong in my marriage. Her cheating and leaving with her co-cheater was her (foolish) choice, she broke our vows, she violated all of our trust, and her word of honor is worthless. The sleazy lowlife she has shacked up with also has no honor, if he will prey upon a married woman. He is also untrustworthy, as he is now living with a married woman! I do not deserve this disrespect. After years and years and years of love, support and caring, she chose to fall prey to her midlife crisis. All I ever did was love her, and she has chosen to leave it behind. That is, in actual reality, HER loss.
Author singme2sleep Posted November 20, 2013 Author Posted November 20, 2013 This is exactly right. Speaking for myself, I did nothing wrong in my marriage. Her cheating and leaving with her co-cheater was her (foolish) choice, she broke our vows, she violated all of our trust, and her word of honor is worthless. The sleazy lowlife she has shacked up with also has no honor, if he will prey upon a married woman. He is also untrustworthy, as he is now living with a married woman! I do not deserve this disrespect. After years and years and years of love, support and caring, she chose to fall prey to her midlife crisis. All I ever did was love her, and she has chosen to leave it behind. That is, in actual reality, HER loss. I'm so sorry that happened to you...how long were you married? Truly, I feel your pain. I will never understand soneone waking up one day and deciding they're done with the person whose supposed to mean everything to them!
AZtragedy Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 I'm so sorry that happened to you...how long were you married? Truly, I feel your pain. I will never understand soneone waking up one day and deciding they're done with the person whose supposed to mean everything to them! We were married 6 years (well, we are still married since the divorce process has not officially started yet), but together as a couple for a total of 16 years... I honestly had no idea she was having these thoughts or feelings or making plans with this other guy that she is now with.... it hurts in the worst way, and I am struggling with it all day every day. Thank you for your thoughts and support.
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