Mixed signals- WTF?

[SillieBillie]

Hi everyone,

 

It's been some time since I last posted in here, and since then I have done with the last guy (who turned out to be exactly as you all said, a user) and have caught the interest of someone else.

 

I'll explain how he is, and how it started out, because I feel like he's trying to play games.

Alright, so he is a bartender, in his early thirties, and basically every chick that walks into that place is trying to get him to go home with them. It's kind of pathetic. I initially thought he was attractive, but my first response is never to hang off someone and make a fool of myself. So I just pretended I wasn't interested- meanwhile a regular at the bar (a woman) was using me to get him to her place. She'd ask me to ask him over for her- which I did, and he expressly said nothing would ever happen between them- but turned up every time anyway, before leaving.

 

You might be wondering why she used me, and why he picked me over everyone else... It's because I'm very attractive- I'm not being vain, it's a fact I've come to accept. And I feel like people treat me differently because of it.

 

One weekend, I got very drunk, and waited around for him to knock off work, and he took me home. Next day he invited me around and we had sex, and he explained that the only reason he ever went to her place was because I was going. Seemed really affectionate.

 

I usually go to the bar every weekend, and he kind of hovers around without being obvious. If he sees me talking to a guy, he clears our glasses. If he sees I'm getting creeped on he asks if I'm alright. But mostly ignores me, as I do him. Because that's his job, I don't want to interfere with his work- and I think it offends him a bit.

 

Anyway, he made plans with me this weekend, for saturday and sunday because we were both free off work, and he just didn't reply to me to confirm it at all. He replied to a couple of my messages that day to say hi, but then went cold. I could see he was online, but he didn't even open my messages.

I'm really confused now, because he seemed really interested, he made plans, but he just dropped them without a word.

 

If he is playing hard to get, I don't like it. I hate games, I it sounds like that's what he's doing.

[ExpatInItaly]

Hi everyone,

 

It's been some time since I last posted in here, and since then I have done with the last guy (who turned out to be exactly as you all said, a user) and have caught the interest of someone else.

 

I'll explain how he is, and how it started out, because I feel like he's trying to play games.

Alright, so he is a bartender, in his early thirties, and basically every chick that walks into that place is trying to get him to go home with them. It's kind of pathetic. I initially thought he was attractive, but my first response is never to hang off someone and make a fool of myself. So I just pretended I wasn't interested- meanwhile a regular at the bar (a woman) was using me to get him to her place. She'd ask me to ask him over for her- which I did, and he expressly said nothing would ever happen between them- but turned up every time anyway, before leaving.

 

You might be wondering why she used me, and why he picked me over everyone else... It's because I'm very attractive- I'm not being vain, it's a fact I've come to accept. And I feel like people treat me differently because of it.

 

One weekend, I got very drunk, and waited around for him to knock off work, and he took me home. Next day he invited me around and we had sex, and he explained that the only reason he ever went to her place was because I was going. Seemed really affectionate.

 

I usually go to the bar every weekend, and he kind of hovers around without being obvious. If he sees me talking to a guy, he clears our glasses. If he sees I'm getting creeped on he asks if I'm alright. But mostly ignores me, as I do him. Because that's his job, I don't want to interfere with his work- and I think it offends him a bit.

 

Anyway, he made plans with me this weekend, for saturday and sunday because we were both free off work, and he just didn't reply to me to confirm it at all. He replied to a couple of my messages that day to say hi, but then went cold. I could see he was online, but he didn't even open my messages.

I'm really confused now, because he seemed really interested, he made plans, but he just dropped them without a word.

 

If he is playing hard to get, I don't like it. I hate games, I it sounds like that's what he's doing.

 

 

I don't think he's playing hard to get; I think he's showing you his true colours. He's unreliable and inconsiderate. It sounds more like another offer came along so he went with that instead. In any case, he is rude. I wouldn't take this any further.