hugznkisses21 Posted December 25, 2004 Posted December 25, 2004 hmmmmm does their come a point in a relationship where two people who are relatively young who love eachother no less change....do relationships change....do we....but our love doesnt....even though we do things differnt say things maybe not as much and show things now as much??? Im a tad confussed although there is some stress in my relationship right now...although it is a result of ouside factors....i have notice we are different....im not sure if it is good or bad...buut different...is this normal especially with young people...this is my first long term relationship so is this what they call "being to be comfoprtable" he loves me i do know that and he makes sure i know....and i love him....we are "in love" and enjoy our time together but we are a bit differnt i cant out my finger on it but we arent as mushy gushy and cutesy....we are more like married i guess....i dunno never been married but we are together and we dont always have to be on top of eachother, we kiss but we dont always have to be all over eachother, we touch but we dont always have to be all over eachother....mind u these happen but not as often...i spoke to him and he again and again tells me he loves me and he feels the same has no intentions of ever leaving me and isnt ever with someone else cause i am the best......so as i sit here confussed i love this guy so much and him me so what the deal with change anyway!! can some of u long term relationship vetrens help me out
sean001 Posted December 25, 2004 Posted December 25, 2004 I was in a long-term relationship at a young age, about 5years (age 17-22). I don't know if that applies to you or not. How long have you been going out? Also, when you say "different" it seems to me the *relationship* is different and your interaction with each other is different -- not that YOU two are necessarily different. Things do go from mushy to cooler and then can heat up again, especially if you have to spend some time apart. I remember when I moved off to college that I would get SOOOOOO excited to see my girl after not being able to see her for a few weeks at a time. It was like the first time we met... So let me know what your ages are and how long you have been going out, maybe I could share some of my experience with you.
Author hugznkisses21 Posted December 25, 2004 Author Posted December 25, 2004 im 22 hes 24 we have been together 1.5 years...for the entire relationship we have seen eachother about twice a week and sometimes more when we would go away for weekends....we live about 1 hour away from eachother but with work and other responsibilities thats is usually the time we have. ya i guess relaiohsips change but is that bad? we still love eachother and express it just not as much and not a mushy as we used to....and i think now he show more of he everyday stresses in our relatiohsio whereas when we were relaively new he would sugarcoat things....so maybe we are comfortable I dunno this new to me so just throwing it out there....initially i got scared thinking we were fading but he said he has no intentions of being without me and loves me and would screw me over or hurt me so i was confused but thank you for posting
sean001 Posted December 25, 2004 Posted December 25, 2004 Thx hugz, that changes things a bit. You both are a bit more "settled" in your lives right now with working and everything, right? I mean, I know that for me in my old situation it was a big issue that i moved away to college (she didn't) and that I wasn't sure if I was going to stay in the same area where we grew up, where I was going to work, etc. But that didn't come up until maybe 3 years into it. But I DO remember the 18 month part and that was definitely where i noticed a "change" in my relationship. That's where things got more *routine* and I found out we were kind of doing the same things all the time (Friday night, chill, watch a movie, etc.). The best way to spice things up was to travel. I realize it's the winter time, but it's always a good time to travel. Maybe you need to take a little vaca with him (even just a long weekend). It would spice things up. Try changing things around a little bit.
Author hugznkisses21 Posted December 25, 2004 Author Posted December 25, 2004 yes u are right...one of thinsg right now i think thst is getting to us is stress and 2 majors things are time and money.....so trips right now arent so good....im glad though we plan to snuggle up and do nothing for new years so we can forget all the hoopala and enjoy eachother but i told him today acutally i want to travel with him when we have money in the new year....u are right there is alot of routine happeneing....is it true guys dont TRY as hard when the know the HAVE their girl
sean001 Posted December 25, 2004 Posted December 25, 2004 I just tried to send you a message in response but I don't think I did it correctly arrrggghhhh
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