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So I've been dating this girl for nearly a year and I am at a point where I really don't know what I should do.

 

Some points I would like to make about our relationship.

1. She is religious and I am not. This is probably our biggest hurdle.

2. I have a decent job but I also have a lot of responsibilities to my mother to take care of home. After paying mortgage and bills, and dates, I am left with almost no savings. This just doesn't seem feasible for me to continue this way. (Budgets have been discussed but she likes go on vacations and trips a lot and that is another concern as I've told her that isn't going to be possible. She got very upset after that.)

 

Now I am at point where my fuse is getting shorter and shorter with her. She is very stubborn and though she compromises sometimes, it still feels like 80-90% of time I am doing things for her rather than the other way around.

 

I am approaching that age where all my friends are starting to start families and I just feel like if I end this relationship, it could be 3-4 years or even longer before I will find another (that's how long it took from my last ex to her).

 

I know it's easy to ask, can you see yourself spending the rest of your life with her... and the answer is sometimes. Sometimes i see myself spending my life with her, sometimes i just wanna call it quits. I know this is post is all over the place but I just need some advice.....

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You should not compare your life to that of friends. That will only make you feel pressurized.

I would say, if you are not happy then break up. But before that give it a last try... talk to her clearly and tell your concerns and ask her what she thinks... if it can be worked out then great...

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