Leigh 87 Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 Hmm. People are interesting. It is funny how guys can f*(ck anything that moves, where as most girls cannot enjoy sex and, and for that matter, even BRING themselves to have sex with a guy that are not physically attracted to. A guy I know met a girl online, off a free dating website. The girl was much more overweight then her online pictures suggested. He slept with her anyway; he even asked her: " look, do you mind if I leave right away, after sex?" He did the deed, left, rang my friend to tell him that he had to leave right away and laughed about it with him. ... He realised he left his wallet Karma. I don't know why women allow themselves to get treated like a piece of meat past a certain age:( learnt this lesson ages ago:( Oh - and the guy stopped it at my mates place and got viagra off him before the date. WTF? Why the viagra before the date? I have sat down and had serious discussions with this guy. He actually seemed like a decent guy. Once he finds a girl worth while, he seems the type to be very, very nice to her indeed. He is looking for that girl who lights his heart on fire, and wont string girls along if he is not all that into him. ...I find it sad that a guy has tha capacity to treat a girl like a piece of meat who is not even good enough for company after sex... ..Only to go on to treat the right girl like a queen. I think my ex was like that: never did nice things for me, yet has a gf who is 10 years younger than me and is a model and looks after the disabled. I bet he treats her like a princess and does all the things for her he never did for me. I treat ALL MEN the same; with respect. I do not date them if I am not feeling it with them to begin with. I do not treat my FWB like a piece of meat. Nor do they to me. WTF is with girls like that? I am so worried for their self esteem:( And yes, since my ex I have learnt better.. Any guys on here who readily admit to treating some girls like cr@p, and others like gold?
Kate9292 Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 (edited) " look, do you mind if I leave right away, after sex?"WOW! If someone said that to me, there would be no sex. I'd leave or kick them out now. I actually feel sorry for her to have such a crappy self-esteem to allow it. I think my ex was like that: never did nice things for me, yet has a gf who is 10 years younger than me and is a model and looks after the disabled. Is 87 your birth year? So is your ex dating 16 year olds? What a loser Edited November 16, 2013 by Kate9292
irc333 Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 It is funny how guys can f*(ck anything that moves, where as most girls cannot enjoy sex and, and for that matter, even BRING themselves to have sex with a guy that are not physically attracted to. I think it's because that the female sex organ provides more pleasure of the sensation than what the rest of the woman looks like. As if it operates independently from the woman...just a theory. Basically, some guys are thinking, "Who cares what she looks like, she has something that would make me feel good". Apparently, in some cases, physical stimulation trumps physical appearance. (yes, sounds morbid, but that's what I think that some guys may be thinking).
Author Leigh 87 Posted November 16, 2013 Author Posted November 16, 2013 WOW! If someone said that to me, there would be no sex. I'd leave or kick them out now. I actually feel sorry for her to have such a crappy self-esteem to allow it. Is 87 your birth year? So is your ex dating 16 year olds? What a loser She is about 18 I think, sorry I got the age gap wrong! He turns 27 soon, so it isn't that bad. He always prefered younger girls, when they are thinner and better looking. I think a lot of guys are like this - they prefer 19 year olds visually to 25 year olds. They just don't ACT on it since they know younger girls lack experience. Hmm, my friend said that the guy was sort of justified.. The girl online apparantly talked sex and lead him to believe she was down for it. Met her - she was way more overweight than her pics let on. For some reason, he thought to get viagra on the way there:lmao:, and felt obliged to have to go through with the sex! It was really uncomfortable when he went back and got her wallet:lmao: He didn't know her name until he was in her house. I once had her level (or lack there of ) self esteem when I was a teenager, and I am still working on it now. I still demand a lot better treatement from my FWB's though. I don't do booty calls. It feels really good when the guy you are sleeping with at least values you enough to want to enjoy your company before and after sex, and also enjoy hanging with you without sex at all on the agenda. I had ONS with guys when in Berlin actually, this year, and it was not for me. HOWEVER - even they treated me to a good night, brought me drinks, treated me nicely, made sure to tell me and show me that they thought I was gorgeous (to them I was, I know I am not winning any beauty contests). It is sad that even my ONS treated me better than this guy did to her. At least they stayed in the same bed and thought I was attractive. ANd shouted me stuff. Even then ONS feel bad and FWB with a genuine friend beats it any day.
Author Leigh 87 Posted November 16, 2013 Author Posted November 16, 2013 typo - when he went back to get HIS wallet. Not that robbing her would have made her feel much worse than she must already feel about herself:mad:
Ninjainpajamas Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 It's "normal" for men...we all understand the mentality and behavior even if we don't engage in it ourselves...due to morals, standards, pride and whatever else, if we were all cavemen and didn't have these societal "morals" we'd be screwing everything left and right then go on our merry way without even thinking twice about it. If nature and the laws of attraction deemed otherwise then he'd stick around...in this case, she wouldn't be considered a "worthy mate" for offspring in caveman terms...too overweight, unappealing and there's a lack of empathy there because he doesn't really care about her...and in a way why should he? they both agreed to casual sex, nothing was talked about...women like to say they're both doing it out of their own will anyway, so what's the big deal right? So it's our awareness and ability to understand what we are doing that puts us in control of our nature...otherwise, the truth is men will just about have sex with anything, and it has nothing to do with his standards or who he is, if you painted it with that kind of a brush then every man would pretty much be a "bad guy"...because pretty much every guy at some point in his life, considering he had the opportunity has had sex with a woman he wasn't necessarily all that interested or attracted to....it's kind of like how women will date a man who she feels no chemistry with but continues anyway so that she can satisfy her "needs" for this and that...it's a trade-off, he's got something you "need" while she's got something he needs....vagina. So no its not abnormal at all, it's just something men don't admit or talk about to women...women tend to be more honest and empathetic if questioned that is, they feel this pressure to be transparent from within themselves, however women also manipulate men and use them as well....even though they know it's only temporary. Everyone is out there just trying to get what they need in the end...whether it's for the long term or short term, or just tonight...at least in his case he can say he was honest and misleading, and she can't blame him for his actions implying more...after all if he stuck around and cuddled she'd probably be asking if he wasn't that interested in her why did he stick around after sex and cuddle and "pretend" it was something more....damned if do, damned if you don't with women sometimes.
mammasita Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 I think it just comes down to this: men are from mars.
Author Leigh 87 Posted November 16, 2013 Author Posted November 16, 2013 Okay, but guys, I have a bare minumum list that I feel is very useful to women when it comes to surviving with their self esteem intact. - in short of a loving relationship, shouldn't a FWB be ideal? With a guy who is a genuine friend and who you can talk to for hours on end? A guy who is friends before and after the benifits are there? - girls shoulds realise that just cos a guy cuddles you, it does NOT mean he is that into you. He may really like you but not necessarily be into you like THAT. I live by the rule of: if he values your friendship, has done nice things for you and he GENUINELY acts like he values your company as more than just sex on a stick - he is worthy of opening your legs for. ................................................ Before my long term EX, who I wrote about pretty extensively on here... I was more along the lines of this girl. Sex is sex is sex. I was young, skinny and had hot guys around me back then before Andrew: why the hell NOT have casual fun, without really checking if a guy is genuinely interested in you as a person on ANY level, even just mates? (thankgod I found my ex before I proceeded to sleep around:lmao:) After the way my ex treated me, a switch flipped, and I am now vehemently AVERSE to any treatement that... is not REALLY GOOD:lmao: I am somewhat OVERLY cautious. Without being cynical:lmao: I have been that girl before like in the OP, however; I was less happy, respected my self less, and am doing much better now that I have SOME stadards. ........................................................ I really don't think what happened with the girl and the guy in the OP should happen, but sadly: if it didn't, MILLIONS.. No, wait. THOUSANDS of millons of men, the world over, would have very sore hands frm masturbating for years on end since it IS HARD for men to find women who they feel are worthy of sex, cuddles spending time with. Is it really that bad, if, say... the whole pump and dump scenaro was excecuted with more taste? For example: guy takes girl out for dinner, pays for a nice meal, talks to her, takes the time to get to know her a little AND THEN go home and Fck? Then politely excuse themselves OR, if it is not too awful, lay there and chat for a little after? Opposed to IMMEDIATELY walking out? It wouldn't cause loss of dignity and espect for oneself if this is how things transpired.
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