emi Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 He dumped me 4 months ago. yesterday he texted me '' hey. whats up?'' What i supposed to do? I dont know right now im feeling weird, im not happy or anything when i got the text. Im admit still thinking about him but i dont know what to do with this
greenfairie Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 Yeah, just don't do anything. He didn't send anything substantial. NC is the best way to go… If he really wants you, he'll step it up rather than sending you a lame text. 2
Haydn Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 Nothing. wall of silence. Take back the power. If he is serious he should be begging! So until then nothing. 3
Trick1004 Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 Don't do anything. I got a "Miss you" text from my ex last weekend followed by "Sorry. Drunk" the next afternoon. I'm so glad I didn't respond to either one. Ignore and Keep moving on. Trick 5
Jmk21 Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 I second the notion to say nothing. I replied the the third text and I really wish I didn't. If they are even remotely sincere they will CALL or spill their guts on how theywant you back. But no dumper really wants that powershift
aybc123 Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 Im gonna go ahead and say, Reasons for his texting: 99/100 he thinks it has been long enough for you to move on and wants to see if you're both on good terms 1/100 he has doubts about the breakup If you dont reply then a) you keep on healing and b) if it's the 1/100 he'll probably try harder. However, if it's the 99/100 then chances are he'll figure you just dont want to speak to him and you'll never hear from him again. So it really depends on what you want and how you want things to be. Personally i hate being on bad terms with an ex so i probably would reply and just say 'hey im good, hope you're doing well' but to a lot of people that doesn't bother them at all. And in the long run it probably wont matter too much either way. 1
chris21422 Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 "hey whats up?" really? at least put in more effort.. "IGNORE PLEASE" and never look back.. I can say that this guy will never be serious with you.. First message after break up is the most important thing! You will see if a person still cares about you / really want you or just freaking bored and lonely with their life.. 2
TaraMaiden Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 He dumped me 4 months ago. yesterday he texted me '' hey. whats up?'' What i supposed to do? I dont know right now im feeling weird, im not happy or anything when i got the text. Im admit still thinking about him but i dont know what to do with this This is the full extent of his message.... "Hey. What's up? Are you still thinking about me? I sure hope so. This message will ensure that. It's just that I need to know i can still yank your chain and it gives my ego a boost to know i can do that. Besides, if you reply, you're over it, right? So, I don't need to feel guilty about dumping you. Look, the whole point of my asking you what's up, is just to know I'm still on your mind. Because that does me a power of good. " So yes. You completely ignore. Delete, and block. Read the 'No Contact Guide' in my signature. It's the best thing you'll ever learn..... 8
me85 Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 "hey whats up?" really? at least put in more effort.. "IGNORE PLEASE" and never look back.. I can say that this guy will never be serious with you.. First message after break up is the most important thing! You will see if a person still cares about you / really want you or just freaking bored and lonely with their life.. I second this.
cavalier99 Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 no reply at all? Why would you even consider replying and ruin all the prgress youve made??? Replying would be an EXTREMLEY dumb move. DONT RESPOND.! I wouldnt even reply to a super nice text never mind a stupid.."whats up" text.. Id be mad as hell. THis is the person that tore your heart into little pieces..remember??? Cav 1
Author emi Posted November 17, 2013 Author Posted November 17, 2013 Thank you guys. I havent contacted him. I know that he let me waited for so long. But however i admit that some part of the breakup is mine faults as well. Thats why im wonder should i answer. If he just dumped me for no good reason, i wouldnt have posted this
TaraMaiden Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 It's not a question of fault, blame, or anything else. The main facts are that one, he dumped YOU, and two, he's "fishing". Leave it be. Healing happens faster that way. 2
cavalier99 Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 It's not a question of fault, blame, or anything else. The main facts are that one, he dumped YOU, and two, he's "fishing". Leave it be. Healing happens faster that way. I agree.Listen to TaraMaiden she wont steer you wrong. Good to see you back TaraMaiden i missed you Cav PS Im 100 percent recovered for quite a while now. Thanks to a lot of your advise among others.
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