greenfairie Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 When do you know its okay to stop the NC with your exes? Sometimes I feel like I want to respond or send a text saying hi but I know theres a strict rule with staying NC with some people. So when is it okay to stop NC?
Mariposa10 Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 When your ex doesn't have the power to hurt your feelings anymore? When you've healed. 7
Simon Phoenix Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 If you are asking, you aren't ready. 10
cavalier99 Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 (edited) Thinking about this at this point in your BU is pointless. You need to decide your never going to talk to them again. Now ther reality is in a year or so after pure NC you might be able to do this with no adverse affects but you need to be 1000 percent over it. Also you wont care at all. To even consider breaking NC you need to be over it enough where you can hang out with them and their new significant and watch them kiss or discuss them getting married ectera..and be actually happy for them. It will be boring for you. that is when you know. Cav Edited November 16, 2013 by cavalier99 4
1908 Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 When you feel nothing but pure indifference towards them? Could be years, could be months. Could be never as well I suppose. Only you know. 1
Author greenfairie Posted November 16, 2013 Author Posted November 16, 2013 Thanks guys for all the input. I just wonder because I do share a lot of mutual friends with a couple of exes and wonder how long it'll take for me to feel totally comfortable/at ease at gatherings like that.
2fargone Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 When do you know its okay to stop the NC with your exes? Sometimes I feel like I want to respond or send a text saying hi but I know theres a strict rule with staying NC with some people. So when is it okay to stop NC? When you don't want to respond or say hi is the only time... Funny how that works, isn't it... 1
MoooOinkBaaa Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 I don't think there's a way back myself. It's just too awkward and weird after a break-up. It's like something sacred from the past that shouldn't be touched. Plus I don't want to talk to someone who broke my heart. 2
Jmk21 Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 Whenever you feel complete indifference towards them. But that could take years. Best bet is to find somebody you like MORE than your ex and you just won't give a damn to breaking nc. Plus nobody's new gf/bf wants to hang around with their SO's ex. I've been there and it builds resentment fast as hell 1
cavalier99 Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 Thanks guys for all the input. I just wonder because I do share a lot of mutual friends with a couple of exes and wonder how long it'll take for me to feel totally comfortable/at ease at gatherings like that. Probably when you start do date someone else. But by then these questions will be the last thing on your mind. Cav 1
Author greenfairie Posted November 17, 2013 Author Posted November 17, 2013 I wonder if it's for the best to unfriend all of his relatives like (sister-in-law, a a few half sisters, brother-in-law) I don't have any problems with them. They always considered me family. They still like some of my statuses and I like some of their stuff but then I think it's kinda weird to stay in touch… It's like what's the point? It also sucks seeing their updates too, because he has a few nieces that I absolutely adored and saw on the first day being born…. Babysat countless times… They really were like family to me so I don't want to delete them just because of what's going on with me and my ex. Any advice!?!?
Author greenfairie Posted November 17, 2013 Author Posted November 17, 2013 Problem solved. Just deleted all the family members related to him. Felt weird but liberating. 1
d0nnivain Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 It's a personal choice. If you are hanging on to them, in the hopes of getting him back, that's bad. If you can interact with them even in the face of your EXs new So, continue your relationship with them
Author greenfairie Posted November 17, 2013 Author Posted November 17, 2013 Why is he doing this? I haven't been in contact with him
HorseLuck Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 Sorry, can you explain what snapchats and how you know? 1
Author greenfairie Posted November 17, 2013 Author Posted November 17, 2013 Snapchat is like a video/picture message. He added me on that app on my iPhone, sent me a picture of a girl in lingerie in a bed.
HorseLuck Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 Ah. I don't recall your situation per say but he's pushing your buttons. Trying to get a rise out of you. Keep your head up..seems like vermin. Don't react. I'll update myself tomorrow with your story.
kassy Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 Oh man that is awful. What a dickhead!! Thank god you got rid of him now! 1
Jmk21 Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 Ouch immature much? Guys a douchebag. He will get his heart stomped on soon enough, trust me 2
theonlyjuan Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 When you are able to talk to her without any emotions involved. This mean being able to hear about their new partners, sex life etc. I had my NC taken away from me a few times. I saw my ex out a couple of times and she cornered me and started conversations. I'm fine with everything now but don't really feel the need to be friends
cavalier99 Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 Why is he doing this? I haven't been in contact with him Haha this cracks me up!! Anyway he just want to show you hes moved on and is free. (dumpers want OUT) Sorta an immature d*ck move to say IM FREE Weeee Weeeeeee look at me. I Can F*ck whoever I want now and because im getting some i made the right choice. Also probably some built up resentment about stuff in the RS and now he wants to rub your face in it.. He will continure to be a prick. Arnt YOU supposed to block him? This is your job inorder to move on. Amd of couse you need to remove his entire famil form FB ecetera. Cav 3
Author greenfairie Posted November 18, 2013 Author Posted November 18, 2013 Why did you accept his add? I didn't. I left my snap chat setting to "allow anyone to add/send me pictures". Doesn't mean I'm adding them back as friends or contacts to send them pictures and I never send them any pictures.
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