Author RonaldS Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 Didn't think I would be bumping this thread. So, reviewing from the last post.... Called her, left a message saying I wanted to see her, she said she would call back, never called. I wrote it off after that. Then, she texted me out of the blue a couple of weeks later. We texted a little, but there didn't seem to be much pizzaz. Just texted a few times over a couple of hours. Then nothing. Weeks passed, and then she contacted me again. We went back and forth, and then she suggested we get dinner. We made plans early in the week to meet up last night. Well, we both had sh*tty long days, so we both agreed to skip last night and that we would get together sometime soon. I don't get this girl. I'm fine with not getting together last night. The weather was terrible, my day sucked, and I initiated the suggestion that we skip. So that's not an issue. But what's up with continually popping up?
Author RonaldS Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 You ever consider she has someone else? I've wondered that. But if that's the case, why not just move on?
Author RonaldS Posted February 21, 2014 Author Posted February 21, 2014 So, right around the time I had posted the last time in this thread, I had just given up on this girl. We stopped communicating, and even though I was disappointed in the way things worked out, I was kind of like 'anyway'. Naturally, two weeks later, she texted me out of the blue. Real short conversation, and I didn't have a lot to say, and no mention of getting together. Didn't really think much of it. Then, maybe 5 days later, she texts me on a Friday night, saying she was at a bar with her friend and wanted me to meet her out. I did, and her friend left, so it was just us. We had a good time, talked...it was nice. We left, she caught a cab and then a nice hug and a quick kiss. Then we ended up going out for dinner the next week. We get along really well, our senses of humor and perspectives on a lot of things mesh well, and I'm super attracted to her. It was a good time. We left, I walked her to her car, and we had a semi short but really nice make-out session (it was freezing out and we both had to get up early the next morning). And then....pretty much nothing. We tried to meet up another night, but just couldn't make it work. I think I'm at the point with her that I feel like she is as flakey as I am, so it's perfect. Every once in awhile we'll get together, we'll have, maybe something a little more intense might happen...or maybe not...and then afterward, it will just be business as usual. Has anybody else ever had a 'thing' like this before?
quidproquo89 Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 Update: From this I'm reminded of a lesson I learned by owning a business....don't get excited until the check clears. A lot of people meet people and get butterflies and feel all tingly and start writing a narrative with a person that they like, and then if just ends for whatever reason and then people feel hurt and can't understand why it didn't work out according to their narrative. I learned a long time ago that, in life, it's wise to temper our enthusiasm and expectation. Anyway, onward. terrific advice, I've been making that mistake for ages. Learning it now, it is sooo easy to get sucked in, that you just have to try and be calm and above all smart
quidproquo89 Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 So, right around the time I had posted the last time in this thread, I had just given up on this girl. We stopped communicating, and even though I was disappointed in the way things worked out, I was kind of like 'anyway'. Naturally, two weeks later, she texted me out of the blue. Real short conversation, and I didn't have a lot to say, and no mention of getting together. Didn't really think much of it. Then, maybe 5 days later, she texts me on a Friday night, saying she was at a bar with her friend and wanted me to meet her out. I did, and her friend left, so it was just us. We had a good time, talked...it was nice. We left, she caught a cab and then a nice hug and a quick kiss. Then we ended up going out for dinner the next week. We get along really well, our senses of humor and perspectives on a lot of things mesh well, and I'm super attracted to her. It was a good time. We left, I walked her to her car, and we had a semi short but really nice make-out session (it was freezing out and we both had to get up early the next morning). And then....pretty much nothing. We tried to meet up another night, but just couldn't make it work. I think I'm at the point with her that I feel like she is as flakey as I am, so it's perfect. Every once in awhile we'll get together, we'll have, maybe something a little more intense might happen...or maybe not...and then afterward, it will just be business as usual. Has anybody else ever had a 'thing' like this before? no , i really don't like that. I like a girl to be with me or not. That would just hurt and wind me up. That would be a no can do from me. I don't know how people can beahve like that
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