lovekris16 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 [FONT=Calibri]I’ve been seeing this guy for about 2 months, so the relationship is still fairly new. From what I can tell, he’s a great guy and I really enjoy the times we’re together, we always have an awesome time. Recently, we slept together and the sex was amazing. During sex, he kept sayings things like I better never give myself to another man and that I was all his. (Really didn't bother me, b/c he was enjoying what he was feeling, right?) After sex and we cuddle, he kept saying things like that I belong to him and he didn’t know what he was cable of if he found out I was seeing someone else and that he didn’t trust himself if he was found in that type of situation. That night when I kiss him, he said "do me a favor and don't ever put you lips on me if they have been on another man". Because of his weird behavior, I asked him have he been cheated on in the pass and he claims he hasn’t. Next day, he sends me a text that says, “I completely meant what I said last night during our sex! It would BE WISE for you to remember that ****! GFN!” I’ve never given him a reason to not trust me so why all of sudden he’s acting possessive? [/FONT]
jphcbpa Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 wow, just wow ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuun...really creepy 2
d0nnivain Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 I'd run scared. This guy sounds like a possessive maniac. You may very well be putting yourself in danger. Get out now. 2
pteromom Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Holy cow! I am not often shocked on LS, but this is shocking. Yes, you should be very very concerned. His obsession with this topic and his warning means he is gonna be the guy who: - constantly accuses you of cheating - asks you about every single guy you work with/talk to - "catches" you looking at other men all the time - starts telling you what you can and can't wear, to assure you aren't going into the world attracting men - watches your Facebook, phone, email looking for suspicious behavior If you stay with him, remember that list, because it's your future. 4
Grumpybutfun Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 lovekris: This sounds severe so I would read up on possessiveness after sex to see if there is something to be learned from that. I also would make it very clear to him that this makes me uncomfortable, and you are not an object he possesses. I consider myself very territorial but I would never treat my wife like she had better fear me. More like making sure she is safe, other guys aren't trying to harm her or make her feel uncomfortable because she is friendly and beautiful, so men flock to her like cats to catnip. If he doesn't receive your words about this making you feel uncomfortable, get out of this relationship because he has issues beyond you. This sounds really unhealthy. Best, Grumps
pteromom Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 I consider myself very territorial but I would never treat my wife like she had better fear me. More like making sure she is safe, other guys aren't trying to harm her or make her feel uncomfortable because she is friendly and beautiful, so men flock to her like cats to catnip. I also "know" you well enough on here that I know you don't make her feel like you don't trust her. That's another big part of the problem with this behavior.
LivingDeadGrl Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 This is just creepy! I would get out now before it gets more serious!
Addison312 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Agree with above posters. These are major red flags. This guy is unstable. 1
me85 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 End it now. I spent more than 2 years with a possessive control freak. I promise there will be great emotional damage done if you keep seeing him. & quite possibly physical. My ex started abusing me physically, not because he thought I was cheating just because he's a crazy POS who needs professional help. I warn you...if he's already acting this way 2 months in, imagine what's to come later on down the road.
AShogunNamedMarcus Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 This is no joke. He is VERY serious about these statements. If he even thinks you might have kissed another man, he will flip the f*** out. He might break things, punch walls, hurt you, hurt himself. It's too risky.
Delilah1623 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 (edited) Please run. And watch your back when you do. He already thinks you are his possession. Don't believe him when he says he was joking. He's not. Edited November 15, 2013 by Delilah1623 spelling
NJtoDC Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 [FONT=Calibri] During sex, he kept sayings things like I better never give myself to another man and that I was all his. (Really didn't bother me, b/c he was enjoying what he was feeling, right?) After sex and we cuddle, he kept saying things like that I belong to him and he didn’t know what he was cable of if he found out I was seeing someone else and that he didn’t trust himself if he was found in that type of situation. That night when I kiss him, he said "do me a favor and don't ever put you lips on me if they have been on another man". Because of his weird behavior, I asked him have he been cheated on in the pass and he claims he hasn’t. Next day, he sends me a text that says, “I completely meant what I said last night during our sex! It would BE WISE for you to remember that ****! GFN!” I’ve never given him a reason to not trust me so why all of sudden he’s acting possessive? [/FONT] During and post sex, and reiterated later, he threatened you. I'd carefully extract myself from this situation. It may be good to have a paper trail of his comments, like communication through text perhaps? If he gets possessive and jealous thoughts during your first sexual encounter and can threaten your safety in the event you cheat...while still INSIDE you? He could be dangerous. Documenting your contact could be helpful if you end up needing to go to court for a restraining order or if he does anything unlawful when you end things. Stay safe. Your man is supposed to be protective not the one who makes you feel the need for protection. I'd be on guard and fearful in that situation.
The Shepherd Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Stage 5 Clinger I just cannot stop laughing whenever I see this comment.
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