AFGuy2004 Posted December 24, 2004 Posted December 24, 2004 Hey all, I'm not a registered member of these forums, but I just ran accross them and thought this would be the best place to ask for advice. Anyways, here's the story and question... I met this girl at the club the other night. We hit it off great. Talked all night, had a great time, etc... At the end of the night, my friend wanted to leave, so I told Sussy (Not her real name) that I had to leave, because I didn't want to leave my friend on his own. She said it was cool and told me to hold on one second. She ran off and came back with a piece of paper with her number on it. I said cool and called her later that night. She said that if I was bored, I could come over and hang out. I figured what the hell, can't hurt anything. I went over there and we watched a movie, talked about our family and friends, our past, etc... She showed me pictures of her daughter and everything. I was having a blast. We then went to sleep. We woke up about 6 hours later and started fooling around. We finally did the deed. Anyways, to make a long story short. After all this, she told me to give her a call later that night, when she got off work. So I did, and left a message. This was 3 days ago, and still no word back from her. I called again 2 days ago and left another message. From the way the night went on and what happened at her house, it doesn't come across to me as it was a one night stand. But was it? Did this girl play me for a fool? Did she just feed me what I wanted to hear? I'm really confused. I was really starting to like her. I wanted to ask her out on a real date, but now I don't think I have a chance. Anyone have any suggestions? Should I call her again, should I go see her, or should I just forget about it (I don't want to)? Anyways, thanks for all advice! Thanks, - AFGuy2004 P.S. I'm 21 years old, and she is too.
SoleMate Posted December 24, 2004 Posted December 24, 2004 Ummmm....It's never comfortable to have to say this...but yes, in all likelihood this was a one night stand. I understand that you had good conversation, good sex, and lots of fun. But it lasted only one night - with someone you BARELY knew. If she were interested in more, it is likely she would have called back by now. You can call her again, or attempt to visit her - but you better make sure you have your asbestos underwear on, because there's a fair chance she'll act like you're not visible. If you want a lasting relationship, better to hold out a bit more, and NOT have sex and NOT fall in love until you are actually getting to know the person. Chatting a few hours over the music at a nightclub does not constitute knowing them, sorry to say. This experience may have been special and unique to you - but to her, it likely was standard operating procedure.
alphamale Posted December 24, 2004 Posted December 24, 2004 Originally posted by AFGuy2004 We finally did the deed. Anyways, to make a long story short. After all this, she told me to give her a call later that night, when she got off work. So I did, and left a message. This was 3 days ago, This was a one nite stand and her saying "give me a calll later" is female speak for "thanks, i had fun, see you around, maybe..." read between the lines.
AFGuy2004 Posted December 24, 2004 Posted December 24, 2004 Well, I just got done talking to her. She said that her baby is staying with her until next Thursday, and that's the reason she didn't call me back. Again, I don't know if I buy it or not. But whatever... She told me she wouldn't leave me hanging like that (implying not calling me back). Who knows. Girl's always confuse me, hell, this one has confused my friends. It's still up in the air as to whether or not it was a one night stand or not. She said it wasn't. But I guess I'll have to wait for her baby to leave to find out. (I completely understand her wanting to spend time with her baby, I'd do the same thing.) Thanks, - AFGuy2004
curiousnycgirl Posted December 24, 2004 Posted December 24, 2004 AFGuy - just to give you the girl's point of view - you have two possible options here 1. it was a one night stand - give her until thursday or friday to call you. If she doesn't you may want to try one more call Friday evening, but that's IT. After that she's just being rude and you need to move on. 2. She may have also had a fabulous time and be totally mortified by what she did. This happened to me once and I avoided the guy for a while. The only reason I spoke with him again was he came in on call waiting (I had been screening my calls up til then). Long story short - we dated for 8 years. We both knew it was nothing permanent and we were both okay with it. Having given option number 2 - I stick with what I said about next steps in option 1. There is never an excuse to be rude. Good luck with it.
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