HeartBorken Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 don't really know how to explain it. Me and my Ex broke up 3 months ago the first two months i felt devastated but this last month i felt pretty numb towards things especially after finding out she started dating her friend two weeks after we broke up earlier this month. I felt hatred towards her. I felt sadness. I accepted that we aren't getting back together but the issue is i still find myself thinking about her (I'm shocked it only took her two weeks to forget about me after two years) but its not sadness or anything. It's just the i wonder what she is up to type of feeling. I still feel a bit of anxiety when i think about her and sometimes i get a little bit upset over how the breakup happened. (I feel like she ran away from responsibility....long story) Anyway I'm not sure how to completely be over this. I work overtime, Hang out with friends often, She is blocked from my FB so i don't keep in contact with her. but still on my down time i find myself thinking about her in some type of way and for the most part its annoying but i can't help myself. I grieved over everything. Hell i even listened to the song Wrecking ball by miley (This was the song she said helped her break up with me...So i avoided listening to it for a long time). So i don't get why i still think about her at times. 2
Mario79 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Believe if there was a proven scientific method that you could take to not hurt anymore we all would be so happy. You loved her and invested yourself in her. You are doing well and keeping busy that is the right way to go. How to be completely over it though? That will take patience on your side, on yourself. And 3 months you are doing well, I have been going nuts and relapsing over these last 8. I am sure you will find your answer eventually. 3
me85 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 (edited) Your story sounds a lot like mine. My ex and I dated officially for 2 years. Broke up officially 4 months ago but he led me on & on (there is a ring involved for more than a year & 1/2) Finally told him I was tired of being in limbo & completely broke it off with him. Couple days later he's all sad & telling me he thinks we're meant to be and that we will end up together forever & that no matter what he's buying me the ring...wtf? Not even 2 weeks later he messages me (on FB no less) this long message about how sorry he is that we were not meant to be together & that he is setting us free by deleting me from his FB & moving on with his life. O-k. I find out the next day as soon as he deleted me he was already involved with another girl through FB & surly outside of FB as well. I told him I knew so then he BLOCKED me then had the girl I don't even know block me too. WTF?! So immature and so very shady. So his excuse for deleting me was complete BS. That he "couldn't handle seeing what I was up to or who was liking my stuff on FB"...Whatever he just wanted to hide his activity from me in case he ever wants to come back. He admitted he didn't want to "burn bridges" with me. Such a jerk. Ya. You think you know someone. You really don't. I already had a really hard time trusting people. Everything he put me through has now made it feels absolutely IMPOSSIBLE to open up & get close to someone again. I know it will take a long time for me. & I LOVE that Miley Cyrus song! All he ever did was wreck me up. Please just keep going out with friends and focusing on work. You are doing the right things & everything you feel is completely natural. Hang tough. Edited November 15, 2013 by me85 1
Sasa123 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 I've been struggling with the same thoughts. But I think only time will help. I think we are so busy on getting over it, so we're actually getting struck somewhere in the whole progress. Let time pass, accept your feelings and one day you'll wake up and realize it doesn't hurt anymore... (I really hope its true. I still miss him and want him back, but hopefully those feelings won't last forever) 1
me85 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 We are both 28 btw. All I want is to date a freaking grown up for a change.
2fargone Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 We are both 28 btw. All I want is to date a freaking grown up for a change. Well... I might aswell put it here: What I found out about myself, is that I can kinda tell upfront how it will all go down. Not wanting to believe it ofcourse... The emotionally immature girls and the likes, things feel exciting with them, like a whirlwind.... The 'normal' ones seem less attractive because it's well, 'normal'. Not that much intensity and such. Slower paced... So ye up till now I still go for 'exciting'..... But I know I shouldn't....
me85 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 2fargone...lol ya. I'm attracted to guys I shouldn't be attracted to either. My ex was the only bf I really truly regret dating and came to resent. He was the worst. But the best. Very hard for me to comprehend. But they were ALL (3) very immature and very much mama's boys. 2 of the 3 were in their 30's but still on the teet! My most recent ex (28) is totally under his mother's thumb but still somehow manages to keep her fooled to how twisted he really is. OUCH. I'm totally bashing on my ex and it feels AWESOME! Anyway. I have learned that I need to date someone completely different next time... NEVER anyone who KNOWS how good looking they are.
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