i'm becoming psycho. i'm doing stupid stuff.

[Scoot Scoot]

i'm obsessed with checking my ex's tumblr. its public and its the only social network i can see of her after she blocked me everywhere. i wish i could put like a child protection thing on her page so i could stay off of it. i also am tempted to unlock my facebook just to see what my ex is up to.

 

i can't take this. it's adding more pain, any suggestions on how to go complete nc?

[Philosoraptor]

Learn some self restraint? You need to realize that it only hurts worse to check, so you need to stop checking. Put a post it note on your screen to remind you that it does nothing but hurt.

[Scoot Scoot]

Learn some self restraint? You need to realize that it only hurts worse to check, so you need to stop checking. Put a post it note on your screen to remind you that it does nothing but hurt.

 

i can try. i can stop myself though. i have the urge to contact her... this needs to stop.

[im_thedude]

There are apps/extensions you can download for Google Chrome and/or Firefox that will let you block webpages.

 

Ultimately though it is self restraint that you need. You must consider yourself as an addict. Knowing your habits there would be a very real chance that you would download the extension to block the page, only to get such an overwhelming urge to look that you choose to literally go through your browser settings to unblock her Tumblr just to get a peek.

 

You know why I assume this? Because a month ago, this was me. I had the same exact problem you are having. Ultimately I realized why: it was the very last way I could possibly feel connected to my ex's life. I didn't look for signs of reconciliation from her (she moved on to another guy), I didn't look to compare her life to mine. I just looked because I was afraid of truly phasing this person out of my life for good. And just seeing what she was up to, even though she didn't give a damn about me and we hadn't actually talked for a couple of months seemed to soften the blow.

 

You have to let go. Tell yourself in the heat of that moment where resistance seems futile that not looking today will make tomorrow better. If you are feeling the urge, walk away from the computer or your phone entirely - don't even give yourself the chance. Change your focus onto something like making a snack or watching television. Again, you must treat yourself like an addict: it's one day at a time, and sometimes it feels as small as one foot in front of the other. It'll get worse before it gets better but acknowledge that's part of the process and bear through it.

[xUnknown]

There are apps/extensions you can download for Google Chrome and/or Firefox that will let you block webpages.

 

Ultimately though it is self restraint that you need. You must consider yourself as an addict. Knowing your habits there would be a very real chance that you would download the extension to block the page, only to get such an overwhelming urge to look that you choose to literally go through your browser settings to unblock her Tumblr just to get a peek.

 

You know why I assume this? Because a month ago, this was me. I had the same exact problem you are having. Ultimately I realized why: it was the very last way I could possibly feel connected to my ex's life. I didn't look for signs of reconciliation from her (she moved on to another guy), I didn't look to compare her life to mine. I just looked because I was afraid of truly phasing this person out of my life for good. And just seeing what she was up to, even though she didn't give a damn about me and we hadn't actually talked for a couple of months seemed to soften the blow.

 

You have to let go. Tell yourself in the heat of that moment where resistance seems futile that not looking today will make tomorrow better. If you are feeling the urge, walk away from the computer or your phone entirely - don't even give yourself the chance. Change your focus onto something like making a snack or watching television. Again, you must treat yourself like an addict: it's one day at a time, and sometimes it feels as small as one foot in front of the other. It'll get worse before it gets better but acknowledge that's part of the process and bear through it.

 

 

Yep, that bold part is why I haven't blocked my ex from FB yet. I haven't looked at her page in 6 weeks, but the fact still remains. I have to let go...

[forgetmenot75]

Try not to stalk her. you know already what you have to do.

[Scoot Scoot]

There are apps/extensions you can download for Google Chrome and/or Firefox that will let you block webpages.

 

Ultimately though it is self restraint that you need. You must consider yourself as an addict. Knowing your habits there would be a very real chance that you would download the extension to block the page, only to get such an overwhelming urge to look that you choose to literally go through your browser settings to unblock her Tumblr just to get a peek.

 

You know why I assume this? Because a month ago, this was me. I had the same exact problem you are having. Ultimately I realized why: it was the very last way I could possibly feel connected to my ex's life. I didn't look for signs of reconciliation from her (she moved on to another guy), I didn't look to compare her life to mine. I just looked because I was afraid of truly phasing this person out of my life for good. And just seeing what she was up to, even though she didn't give a damn about me and we hadn't actually talked for a couple of months seemed to soften the blow.

 

You have to let go. Tell yourself in the heat of that moment where resistance seems futile that not looking today will make tomorrow better. If you are feeling the urge, walk away from the computer or your phone entirely - don't even give yourself the chance. Change your focus onto something like making a snack or watching television. Again, you must treat yourself like an addict: it's one day at a time, and sometimes it feels as small as one foot in front of the other. It'll get worse before it gets better but acknowledge that's part of the process and bear through it.

 

 

 

i downloaded an app for chrome. it really helps. thanks.

[Chi townD]

Every time you have an urge to look at her site, post here instead. And keep posting until the urge passes. People will be here to listen and encourage you.