mendsley Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Last night I slept like crap thinking about my ex and how I miss her. Well the lack of sleep has me a little down today and of course I'm still thinking of the ex. I'm not wallowing, just having one of those bad days. A friend of mine, who is friends with the ex, told me she was having some medical issues and will have some surgery today. I've always been there for her and I have this strong desire to contact her to make sure she's alright. I'm fighting the urge, biu it sucks. 1
Janni Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Last night I slept like crap thinking about my ex and how I miss her. Well the lack of sleep has me a little down today and of course I'm still thinking of the ex. I'm not wallowing, just having one of those bad days. A friend of mine, who is friends with the ex, told me she was having some medical issues and will have some surgery today. I've always been there for her and I have this strong desire to contact her to make sure she's alright. I'm fighting the urge, biu it sucks. You need to ask your friend not to tell you about your ex. It only makes things worse. 1
Mario79 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 You are building scenarios in your head on what would happen if you did, just wish her well on your own, maybe let your friend know. But contacting her its because you have been feeling bad. Fight the urge, you can do it.
AnyaNova Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 remember what happened to me each time I contacted him. Remember how much damage I did to myself and my recovery. Learn from my mistakes. Don't hurt yourself worse, now. 1
radiodarcy Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 (edited) I know what you mean. I seem to be feeling worse as time goes by, not better. The urge to contact your ex is normal. I've been fighting it all this week because I know it won't do any good. He will continue to ignore me and I will feel worse than I am feeling now I find that posting on the "Post here instead of contacting your ex" thread helps. I'm not sure if you know about it, but it's "pinned" at the very top of the coping thread. I like it because at least I'm getting out what I want to say to him and not keeping it to myself. And that does make me feel better. Not much, but a little Edited November 15, 2013 by radiodarcy 1
me85 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 ANYA...I'm sorry:( I did the same thing too though & I really really regret it because it just made me look so pathetic. I look forward to getting over my ex ASAP! NOT looking forward to these stupid holidays. Single for the first time in 8 years:eek:
me85 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Mendsley...I'm sorry to hear you're having a down day. I dreamt of my ex all night & I NEVER dream of him. & so I woke up really sad. Which then led to me crying in the shower. Please hang in there & keep posting on this site because we care about you!
GeneralJennyJenn Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 If you and your ex have mutual friends it probably would be in your best interest to avoid those friends for the time being. I myself during my 1st breakup, learned who my true friends were. And who were enjoying the drama of being both my friend and my ex's friend. I told one friend, my pain is not for your enjoyment. I am sorry but when it comes to breakups and divorce, people take sides even if they preach this whole wishy washy 'but I don't take sides and I care about you both' not cool. I am not saying your friend was trying to stir up problems but did that piece of information they share benefit you? No! It set you back, it got you feeling those old feelings of caring for your ex and wanting to be there for her on occasions such as surgery and so forth. If your friends start to bring up the ex in the future and you chose to stay friends with them. Then stop them when they begin to share news with you. No matter how tempting, cut them off and say 'I don't want to hear about (insert name of ex)' or I don't want to discuss the ex now lets do...(insert new topic of conversation).
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