ilovebrunettes Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 (edited) Two years ago I saw this young girl that worked as a cashier at the place I worked at and became obsessed. I have very specific tastes, I guess, I like women that dress very fashionably, high heels and tights and dark hair and makeup. Girls like that don't really live in my part of town, so I immediately liked her a lot, just on her appearance alone, which I know is a mistake. Instead of talking to her or not letting myself grow attached to her I pretty much stalked her. I would tweet about her and how beautiful she was, I asked all my friends about her and found out she had a BF, etc. for about six months this went on. So after that (about a year and a half ago) I found out she lived right down the street from me and freaked out. I let her know how obsessed with her I was up front after I met her, and she thought it was cute but we were just friends for a little while. Her bf and her broke up, we became better friends, and after a few nights of hanging out and talking intimately all night she came to me and told me she liked me, I was floored. I mean, here was this picture perfect girl that was perfect for me telling me she liked me. We had sex way too quickly. I was way too attached before we even spoke, ten times more so when I had her as my GF. She went out of town after we had only been officially dating for less than two weeks and long story short, I over-reacted because she told me something that I felt was wrong on her part and broke it off with her. Looking back I know I over-reacted over something very small and this is what hurts the most. I think in a way I had built her out to be this perfect girl in my head for so long that when she slightly messed up I called it all off. The problem is that I still think about her a lot. I initiated NC a long time ago. I haven't spoke with her in maybe a year and a few months. She quickly found a new BF after we broke up (someone she was obsessed with a lot, ironically) but I just found out they broke up after being engaged. I still dream about this girl, and don't know how to get over her. I think I see her sometimes in other girls. I even had a much longer relationship (3 months) after her with someone else, and still can't get over her. Edited November 15, 2013 by ilovebrunettes
Philosoraptor Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 If she's single and you're still interested, reach out and see where it goes. Just understand as perfect as she may be in your head that she is also human and has fallacies just like anyone else. If she's not interested then find a way to let it go completely and move on. But man, that's a little creepy. And even though she knew you were obsessed she still gave you a chance? It's like every stalkers dream.
Author ilovebrunettes Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 If she's single and you're still interested, reach out and see where it goes. Just understand as perfect as she may be in your head that she is also human and has fallacies just like anyone else. If she's not interested then find a way to let it go completely and move on. But man, that's a little creepy. And even though she knew you were obsessed she still gave you a chance? It's like every stalkers dream. I'm sure she's not interested, but I'll reach out to her anyways and just wish her well. And if she's not? What then? You say "find a way to let it go completely and move on" but I've been trying that for the last year and a half.
Philosoraptor Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Might take professional help as you seem to have developed a very unhealthy dynamic before you even let her know you were interested. Something needs to be done to correct this obsessive thought process you had, and still have as you had her as an ideal yet dropped her as soon as you saw she wasn't perfect.
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