JenniferX Posted December 23, 2004 Posted December 23, 2004 Despair is my middle name these days. I saw a guy in the underground, we locked eyes...and everything else just disappeared. He was getting on the train as I was getting off. When I got home I flopped myself down on the bed and started crying. Not because we didn't talk...but because I discovered who is is...a moderately well-known actor! (Unmarried - I checked) I'm not going to contact him and look like a fool...and now I can't see his photo without getting depressed. What should I do? I'm having trouble forgetting it.
Debster Posted December 23, 2004 Posted December 23, 2004 Not to sound harsh here, but get a grip! You just locked eyes with the guy and already you are crying over him! What should you do? Realize that maybe the actor thought you were hot, and leave it at that. If it is meant to be it is meant to be.
Dakini Posted December 23, 2004 Posted December 23, 2004 You'll never be satisfied unless you contact him. The worst he can say is, "Who are you, you total psycho?" And then you have no more than what you started with. Don't be a pussy. Take your life by the balls. Maybe, just maybe, he will remember you....
Author JenniferX Posted December 23, 2004 Author Posted December 23, 2004 Originally posted by Debster Not to sound harsh here, but get a grip! No, you sounded very harsh and it was totally unnecessary. Perhaps I didn't make myself clear. I'm NOT crying over someone I don't know. How could I? I'm upset over the SITUATION. I've been lonely for a long time and to finally "click" with someone...only to realize a minute or so later who it is...and there's probably not a goddamn thing I can do about it...is incredibly FRUSTRATING. If you were in my shoes I'm sure you'd be able to conjure up a tear or two as well.
Debster Posted December 23, 2004 Posted December 23, 2004 Actually IMO, it wasn't very harsh at all based on what you posted and NO, you didn't make yourself very clear. You wrote: When I got home I flopped myself down on the bed and started crying. Not because we didn't talk...but because I discovered who is is...a moderately well-known actor! How is this not crying over someone you don't know??? You didn't say that you were upset over the situation in your post? And besides, it is a little off-balance to be upset over a missing connection. If your post was talking about how lonely it is being single, you might have had a difference response from me. AFter all, I DO know what it is like to be lonely. I was the last of my group of friends to be married (by a number of years). I did the crying thing too. HOWEVER, I learned that crying and getting sulky about your situation does not help. Changing it does. I think that if you are this close to crying over being lonely, you need to start looking at counselling. It seems to me like you are very emotional and on the verge of depression.
Author JenniferX Posted December 23, 2004 Author Posted December 23, 2004 Originally posted by Dakini You'll never be satisfied unless you contact him. The worst he can say is, "Who are you, you total psycho?" And then you have no more than what you started with. Don't be a pussy. Take your life by the balls. Maybe, just maybe, he will remember you.... You're certainly correct in saying that I'm having a lot of trouble letting it go. If it were a total stranger (he's a stranger, but not a total stranger, no?) I think it would be easier. Out of sight out of mind as they say. That's not happening here...because I'm Googling for photos...get it? I suppose it may sound a bit ridiculous...but it is a rather odd predicament. You know someone's interested, you know how to contact the person....but you're going to have to summon up all the courage in the world to do it. I guess maybe I am being a pussy. What would you do? The only contact I could possibly make is via a letter. Damn! The thought of it terrifies me.
Author JenniferX Posted December 23, 2004 Author Posted December 23, 2004 How is this not crying over someone you don't know??? If you can't see the difference I can't help you. Sorry. And besides, it is a little off-balance to be upset over a missing connection. You think so? You try it when you know who it is but you can't make contact. It most definitely will set you a little off-balance. HOWEVER, I learned that crying and getting sulky about your situation does not help. Changing it does. So, you're advice is to forget it or do something about it? I think that if you are this close to crying over being lonely, you need to start looking at counselling. LOL Save your armchair psychology for someone else. It's NORMAL to cry when feeling lonely. People are social creatures after all. Good grief.
zilverenvlinder Posted December 23, 2004 Posted December 23, 2004 hi Jennifer, I'm Adria, its nice to meet you Famous people are not anything to deal with. When I was 18 I went to a (blank) concert and me and my friend got backstage passes...we both ended up having sex with the bass player of this certain band. And OF COURSE, we both fell MADLY in love with him afterwards and disregarded the fact that we were being total sluts and groupies. and OF COURSE, he never saw either of us again or attempted to. We ended up fighting over it and are no longer friends. I will never have sex with anyone famous ever again. Ever. And I suggest that you not worry about this person unless he sees you again and asks you specifically on a date or shows specific interest. Luv Adria
Author JenniferX Posted December 23, 2004 Author Posted December 23, 2004 >>Famous people are not anything to deal with. Actually, I've been around quite a few of them..so they don't intimidate me in that way. I'm very used to it. I just found the whole thing kind of disappointing. I did read a bit about this person after it happened. He's not that well-known (I knew him because I watch those types of films. My friends were like...who??)..and he seems like a fairly normal person..unmarried...and even has a lot in common with me. However, I'm not going to make a potential ass out of myself by contacting him. Call me gutless but...just doesn't feel right. I know if we run into each other again...we'll talk. I'm going to leave it at that.
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