nivensummers Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Me and my Girlfriend are together for almost 6 months, we had occasional fights about small things and misunderstandings, when we had a big argument and when she get's on her nerves she will always break up on me and there i am begging her to come back and after pleading and crying to her in the end she will take me back. She is quite different, sometimes she is supportive, sometimes she's not, when i show my sensitive side and open myself to her sometimes she don't know how to react and i will just be contented with her little sympathy on me, i am the one who always initiate things with her, our convo seems one sided most of the time and sometimes she doesn't ask how my day went and what am i doing, she's not open with me.. but i know she loves me, she tells me she loves me and 2 or 3 times every month she comes over on my house, our places are 2 hours apart, she's quiet when we are in person and i gotta keep talking to fill out the silences, i don't know aren't girls supposed to be talkative? what is the cause of her behavior? and how can i change our situation for the better? btw she is 5 years older than me.
HorseLuck Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 All girls are different. There is no one way girls are suppose to act. She could be an introvert, have an avoidant personality, steer away from confrontation, be passive aggressive, be socially awkward, have depression, be bipolar. You'd have to rule these things out one by one speaking with her.. can't make a call on this one. If she's dealing with any of the above therapy is going to be her best bet. I had similar traits to this girl. It would confuse my partner in the worst of ways. It needs to be sorted out..especially the communication, as quickly as possible.
madjac74 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Maybe she wants you to be more manly or maybe she likes wearing the pants in the relationship. I would say ask her about it but you might cry
Nikki Sahagin Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 You say she is 5 years older, but she seems to act younger. It's only 6 months in (I would call this the honeymoon stage) and you already argue, fight and makeup/breakup. I guess it's hard for you as it is your first relationship to know what is/isn't normal. I wouldn't say breaking up loads in 6 months is normal, unless the relationship is fundamentally flawed. Do you want to be with her?
Author nivensummers Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 All girls are different. There is no one way girls are suppose to act. She could be an introvert, have an avoidant personality, steer away from confrontation, be passive aggressive, be socially awkward, have depression, be bipolar. You'd have to rule these things out one by one speaking with her.. can't make a call on this one. If she's dealing with any of the above therapy is going to be her best bet. I had similar traits to this girl. It would confuse my partner in the worst of ways. It needs to be sorted out..especially the communication, as quickly as possible. Yeah, she is hot and cold sometimes, sometimes she is clingy to me whenever i don't text her within the day, then i always text her to ask how her day went and when i do that sometimes it get's one sided and im frustrated about that, i can't figure her out, i don't know about confronting her it might put our relationship in misery, i love her very much. Maybe she wants you to be more manly or maybe she likes wearing the pants in the relationship. I would say ask her about it but you might cry Like showing less emotions and not be always there for her? i tried that she got angry and wonder why i didn't text her the whole day, im so confused about her attitude.
Author nivensummers Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 You say she is 5 years older, but she seems to act younger. It's only 6 months in (I would call this the honeymoon stage) and you already argue, fight and makeup/breakup. I guess it's hard for you as it is your first relationship to know what is/isn't normal. I wouldn't say breaking up loads in 6 months is normal, unless the relationship is fundamentally flawed. Do you want to be with her? She's my first Girlfriend, i wanna be with her and yeah its really hard for me as it is my first time to handle a relationship and what making hard is her attitude towards me, i just hate her not caring and cold attitude sometimes, what i hate the most is she is sometimes incapable of prolonging the conversation, its just damn one sided and whenever i open up with her and discuss my problems, she literally shows little sympathy about the situation, for instance i lost my previous job and she got angry with me because i blew it off as a result causing depression within my side and i don't know if its her family causing this problem or other external factors, she has a broken family her father left them and she only have her mom, sister and brother.
madjac74 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Yes just like that. She is being indifferent towards your relationship because it gives her some control. When you respond in the same way she gets mad. That isn't very healthy
Author nivensummers Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 Yes just like that. She is being indifferent towards your relationship because it gives her some control. When you respond in the same way she gets mad. That isn't very healthy How can i show i have the control and she can't do this to me? she is 26 btw.
madjac74 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Disappear. Do your own thing and go about your life without catering to her. Make her come to you when she is feeling weak. i guarantee you that she will
Author nivensummers Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 Disappear. Do your own thing and go about your life without catering to her. Make her come to you when she is feeling weak. i guarantee you that she will i wanna address the attitude of her being hot and cold and sometimes distant.. i just dont wanna play games..
Author nivensummers Posted November 16, 2013 Author Posted November 16, 2013 she haven't got her period yet its almost 1 month and half, we have done the deed last October and she took a morning after pill and she blames me if we didn't do it, she doesn't have to go to this process, she's always irritable, i don't know what to do..
regine_phalange Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 She reminds me of myself some years ago. It is possible that she loves you. But she seems introverted, insecure and spoiled by your attention! Every time you break up she secretly hopes you will go after her. Don't do that. She will stop respecting you. You do bad to your self esteem and you feed her ego in a wrong way. Don't cry and plead. In your next fight, if she breaks up with you, tell her that you don't want to breakup, ask her if she is sure, and if she is, you walk away like a gentleman.
GatsbyMH Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 Your first and main mistake was trying to understand a woman. Impossible. Perfectly impossible. It will drive you insane with confusion but you will never understand any woman. Ever. And I like it that way. Keeps life interesting.
firemanq Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 Your first and main mistake was trying to understand a woman. Impossible. Perfectly impossible. It will drive you insane with confusion but you will never understand any woman. Ever. And I like it that way. Keeps life interesting. Understanding women is easy. I am going to tell you the secret. Don't share this with a woman, especially if you ever expect to get lucky. They are NUTSO WACKO!!!. Any questions?
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