sean001 Posted December 23, 2004 Posted December 23, 2004 I've been dating someone for a couple months and it's been GREAT. This was the first in a longggg while that I dated someone I really liked. There were no weird "dating games" or other things. For a solid couple months, it was fantastic and easy. BUT, last night the corner was turned. After another great date, she clammed up and got quiet. I asked what was wrong and she said, tepidly, "Maybe this is no longer casual anymore..." The mood for the rest of the night was grim, and I felt as though we parted the evening as strangers. Now, it's not "easy" and "fun" and I don't know what to do next. We stepped into the dating situation with no expectations that it would turn into anything. I'm not even sure if it has, but I haven't wanted anyone else. Well, maybe it has a little bit. I don't want this to suddenly get melodramatic by peppering questions like "what do you mean?" "Is there something wrong?" etc. I'm not even sure if I'm comfortable doing a "status check" because it's still relatively new. But at the same time, I also don't want to act aloof or disinterested because I really do like her and want to continue dating her. Has anyone else been in a situation where the cool, fun, casual dating suddenly "turned" and you felt like cold water was thrown onto the flame? What did you do and how did it turn out? Any suggestions?
tattoomytoe Posted December 23, 2004 Posted December 23, 2004 by not casual....i would think she meant she want to be with you exclusively..aka..not just dating. the only reason i could think of her to be all quiet after is cause you seem not to understand what she was saying. why not call and clarify what she means.
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