kindofsad Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 5 months since break up and yesterday we had a very long text conversation and started talking about the break up/relationship - I told her honestly how hurt I was about it, how I felt she treated me with disregard etc etc. The more she responded the more indignant I became. She basically reiterated that although she cheated, she had moved on by that point and was going to break up with me whether or not she was with someone else. I thought I had moved on from being so upset about it but her attitude really brought it all back. Today I feel ridiculous that I got so caught up in the moment and vented so much! I am that crazy ex that hasn't moved on 1
Philosoraptor Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 This is why you don't communicate with your ex until you have fully healed. You have not fully healed, and instead just looked crazy and continued to allow her to ease her guilt. NC 2
Mario79 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Emotions always snowball when you have no control. When you hear 5 months you may think you would probably feel much better, but I have read stories of people over a year and more. She mustve been one hell of a girl, and you are one hell of a guy if she was with you. My advice, accept that it happened and work on yourself until indeed she no longer means jack. 2
GeneralJennyJenn Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 If you read my recent and only thread at this point you can see that being a 'crazy' ex has no limits, trust me! 5 months is hardly any time at all, you're doing fine. So what you broke NC yesterday what you do is pick yourself right back up and start again. I am doing the same on my end. 1
Author kindofsad Posted November 20, 2013 Author Posted November 20, 2013 If you read my recent and only thread at this point you can see that being a 'crazy' ex has no limits, trust me! 5 months is hardly any time at all, you're doing fine. So what you broke NC yesterday what you do is pick yourself right back up and start again. I am doing the same on my end. Hey, thanks for the reply guys! I have now completely deleted 'whatsapp' so I can't engage in any more ridiculous conversations! Good luck GeneralJennyJen, I read your thread, it sounds pretty tough. Slow process but you can get through it, and who knows maybe it is good to let a little crazy out once in awhile Seriously though, if anyone thinks venting to an ex/seeking closure will be a good thing then take a moment to think what you will really achieve. Its not like you are going to hear what you want to hear, I got caught up in something I knew would be no benefit to me. Its taken me a while but I know NC is the way to go, it is just hard to stop thinking about her and switching the focus away from her and onto me. I'm finding it is a long road for me to healing. 3
me85 Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 It's ok man! Just learn from this, dust your shoulders off and don't do it again.
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