yorkie Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 hey everyone thought id post oin here about my situation as its coming up to 3 months! beware some of you might not like what i have to say and some of you might judge me here but here goes! i do deep down still love my ex but she walked out on me and i have the kids with me. but i recently have been on a date and within half an hour i was sleeping with this girl! yes i know its bad aint it and im seeing her tonight when the kids go to my ex's. the problem i have is that yes this woman is good looking and great in bed very horny and a nice lass. but she isnt my ex. i am also very confused as i do have feelings for a very close female friend but she knows i was struggling and i think she likes me but is waiting for me so technically because im single i love one think im falling for another and also got this lass who im sleeping with because its a confidence thing and who knows i might end up liking her more. yes i know this sounds bad but hey im now single and everyone has told me to move on and the break up was bad and i was and have done the begging thing for the last couple of months! and its helping me take my mind off my ex and tbh helping me think more rationally that its over and i can find other people in the world and maybe love with hit me again! but yeah i guess i could be a dumpee on the rebound and by the way none of the other 3 woman know what im doing and what i feel for each of them. i dont even know what my question is i guess i need peoples advice or thoughts on what im doing at the moment. in my eyes after nearly 13 years of being faithful and in a good realtionship im not playing the field. i dont know still confused guys please can anyone give there thoughts on this?
strive Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 I'd say go ahead and enjoy dating and sleeping around. But DO NOT GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP YET. You're not healed enough to be in a committed relationship. You might think you're falling in love, but you might just be feeling emotional highs after being in the lows for so long. You have to tell these women that you're only here to date and not to commit seriously otherwise you might lead them on and cause more heartbreak. (You'll end up as the dumper this time around *gasp*) You said it yourself, you know you're on the rebound. If they're fine with casual dating, then GO HAVE FUN! \o/ 1
Author yorkie Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 cheers strive yeah im on a big high at the moment as i am getting alot of attention. and i have been straight forward with everyone too. but het when my ex left she said to me i wont get laid which was a nasty thing to say and i guess in my head im prooving her wrong and im trying to move on. on another note we had a massive arugument the other day when i said to my son that christmas he wont be getting as many presents as i am now single and have bills to pay on my own. well apparently he went to his mums and kicked off and she accused me of talking to my son about how many bills i have etc sounds perfetic but then my son said infront of us both dad your moving on and coping fine and mum isnt! wow that felt great and i felt i had some power back! 1
headinthecloud Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 cheers strive yeah im on a big high at the moment as i am getting alot of attention. and i have been straight forward with everyone too. but het when my ex left she said to me i wont get laid which was a nasty thing to say and i guess in my head im prooving her wrong and im trying to move on. on another note we had a massive arugument the other day when i said to my son that christmas he wont be getting as many presents as i am now single and have bills to pay on my own. well apparently he went to his mums and kicked off and she accused me of talking to my son about how many bills i have etc sounds perfetic but then my son said infront of us both dad your moving on and coping fine and mum isnt! wow that felt great and i felt i had some power back! Please stop involving your kids in your marriage/RS as it has nothing to do with them. Find the strength to keep your emotions private. According to Dr.Phil, it's a form of child abuse. Protect your children and never put your ex down in front of them regardless of what she does -- deal with her directly, if necessary. Telling your son there won't be as many presents for Xmas was inappropriate, vindictive, and selfish - your BU is already hard enough for them. And stop focusing on your ex. 1
Author yorkie Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 erm no not at all why is that abuse i was talking to my son who is 12 and we get on great now and tbh he needs to learn money doesnt grow on trees maybe its the way i wrote this, he doesnt believe in santa anymore i for one do not and i do protect my kids so i take offense at that! 1
strive Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 I agree with this. There are instances where children need to understand some of the changes happening around them. Especially if they're old enough. For example, my ex has a car and when we split my daughter and I started using public transport. Then she asked why and it became a discussion about money. These are just facts of life kids have to understand. If my ex and I didn't split up but suddenly became poor for whatever reason, then we would still be talking about money. I don't think you're blaming your ex for this since you're only stating facts about bills. Your son is smart enough to draw his own conclusion. Nothing wrong with that. Except of course your ex will never see it that way. :/ 1
Author yorkie Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 thanks strive for the support there as i have never ever use the kids as a tool or done anything as in emotional abuse as i have done everything to protect them! my kids are my life and its a good job it is a forum as that was out of order. yes the ex does all the time and thats what i am constantly battling against
geegee81 Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 Hey you're single now! Have fun and have PROTECTED sex.... Get your groove on!
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