she says she misses me

[ghf0711]

Okay so I'm just starting this, I'll fill more in later when I'm at my computer. Long story short I dated this girl for about three years before things went south. She wasn't happy with our situation and she started seeing a co worker. This was a very scandalous situation she went and stayed with her sister saying she needed space. About a week later found out about her co worker. Finally ended things we both moved out and and a few weeks goes by before i talked to her. She reached out to me and just like that we started hanging out and having sex again. All the while she's still seeing this co worker without me knowing. This went on for a while and I finally found out. When I did she was actually at his house. I called her and of course she didn't answer so I left a message. This was October of last year I think. I told her I knew what she was doing and that I didn't want to ever see or hear from her again. I went online changed my phone number. She ended up getting it from a friend calling me later that day crying then showed up at my house. We hooked up and the circle contuined. Until she finally broke things off with him December. We both made up and tried to start things over. However as time went on we both realized I just could come to terms with the past. So who would have known history repeated it self. She slowly moved out and into her friennds. This happend around febuary of last year. Since then I got my **** together started going to college at siu. Mean while she meet some guy who was from the middle east and ended up going to qutar which is where she is currently. So that was a rough history. She was talking to my sister Sunday and was telling her how she missed me and my sister got her to say something to me and we have been taking ever since. She's coming home in Jan and wants to see where things go with us. As I said before I dated this girl for three years she was my bestfriend and the love of my life. I never stopped caring for her which is why in having such a hard time letting go. And now all the sudden she's coming back. My question is how do I precede, I love this girl and I want to make it work. But I just want to know that she is sensear in her feelings before I put myself out there. Wow after ready all that it sounds terrible sorry I'm on my phone and just had to get that off my chest.

[strive]

Sadly it's never going to work because you're allowing yourself to become her doormat. She keeps going back to you and then leave you because she knows she can come back anytime she wants.

 

I have no advice except to avoid her until she changes completely (if she wants to at all). If you take her back again and she's still the same person as before, I can assure you that it will end in disaster. Again.

[ghf0711]

And that's my worst fear ):

[aliveagain]

Cancel the meet, you've come this far why fall back. You will never have her exclusively, there will always be another man. Get some dignity back, dump her before she has a chance to hurt you again. Go No Contact save your life, she's not your problem anymore. You write smart, act it. Life's too short for her bulls*it.

[ghf0711]

Easier said than done. And like I told her that I don't think at this point in my life I would take her back. Which i don't plan on. We share a weird connection. Yeahh Iv moved on I feel the happiest Iv ever been but at the same time I have this growing feeling if emptyness. And I don't know I just think maybe I never truly got over her. Dont get me wrong Im at a party school and Iv had my fair share. But there just not the same I feel nothing for these others women. and I'm not a fan of meaningless sex dont know what my point is I guess it's just that I dont know if can walk away from that. She is gunna be like five hours away it's not like Im getting back together. But I do see your point seeing her is only going to bring intensify these feelings

Edited November 15, 2013 by ghf0711