yourmother Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Sadly, I have an account on the World's Largest Meat Market (match.com) and I've been wondering... I'm about 5'11" and 210 pounds, but pretty darn muscular. A thick build, for sure. Football player type. I work out at the gym six days a week, but I'm not "athletic and toned"--you'll never see a six pack here, sorry ladies. Nor will you see the obligatory "bathroom selfie," almost as annoying as the "driving selfie with dog in background." Anyway, to the point. I've been classifying myself as "About Average" which I feel gets me the widest range of views, but I'm worried I should really be classifying myself as "stocky." Yet I shy away from that because I really feel it's going to weed me out of a lot of searches, plus I know some people perceive Stocky the same way people look at Curvy: it can mean ten pounds overweight, but apparently it can mean 50 pounds overweight too. I know how it feels to go on a date with someone who has, let's just say, incorrectly classified themselves. Both with "About Average" ladies who really should be "Curvy" and "Curveys" that should really be "Overweight." It is because of these experiences that I, under no circumstances, date anyone with a full body shot. I also have a number of full body shots on my profile, so women can get a sense of what they're getting beforehand. But I just wonder... Am I becoming the very person I despise? And girls, is Stocky just another word for Overweight? Thanks!
OpheliaSong Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 5'11 and 210 is average. Yes, stocky means slightly overweight to us. No, you don't have to be perfect to get a gf. Just nice, confident, funny and cute.
Leigh 87 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 I am slim with large boobs. I still prefer guys who are stocky to thin guys. My last bfs have all been stocky and/or chubby. I had the hottest chemistry with my recnt ex, who was average but flabby. I have been with hot, lean guys. I prefer stocky and chubby. I love feeling small compared to my guys.
knh3999 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 I don't think you need to list yourself as stocky. I also don't think it would disqualify you from meeting someone great at all. That really is an average height/weight. And I also like feeling small next to the guy I'm dating.
nescafe1982 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 To my mind "stocky" culls up an image of a man who is 20-30 pounds overweight. Given your stats and your gym habit, I don't know if "stocky" is the word you want. Just go with "average" as before, and add a body pic... clothed, normal pic that shows your stature. I don't think anyone is going to accuse you of misrepresenting yourself. And FWIW, I've seen guys list themselves as "average" when they were indeed 40 pounds overweight. I think those descriptors don't provide much of a sense of what someone looks like... and I'd be surprised if other women thought it did.
winny Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 I was on a dating site earlier and I had put myself as Curvy. I am not fat or overweight, but I have the right curves at the right places ;-) I could have put slim and no one can say I described myself wrongly. But somehow I liked Curvy better But I really don't care if someone would have judged me by that single word. Believe me I used to get many many profile visits and messages and date invites. If someone would date me only because of my body type ignoring everything else I have to offer as a person, I would rather not date such a guy. Same applies to you also.
Author yourmother Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 your in the gym a lot. put athletic and toned. LOL. If everyone at my 24 Hour Fitness thought of themselves as Athletic & Toned... I frequently observe people on the cardio machines for, oh, about three minutes before they're done for the night. Just because you're at the gym doesn't mean squat. You have to "put in the work" as Richard Sherman would say.
Author yourmother Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 I wouldn't normally put this much thought into Body Type, but on Match.com it's pretty easy to see what ladies have put as their "Ideal Match." An overwhelming majority of the women I find attractive only list "about average" and "athletic and toned" in this category. I think this is a pretty moot point. Even if I'm on the upper fringes of "about average," as long as I'm showing a full body pic right away... Doesn't seem deceptive to me. Ladies, agree? 1
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