Highschool Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 There's a friend I've been interested in for a while, we hang out daily, I drive her home and we just went for a walk by the local river recently and talked about us. I've brought it up when we went out to eat another time, but we haven't had an "official" date yet. When we talked she kind of told me her life story, and she has a LOT of baggage from family/depression/anxiety, and hasn't ever dated and isn't sure she could keep up a relationship atm. She said it'd be fun at first but she might get overwhelmed after we get serious, and she doesn't want to push me away. So I'll assume that she isn't just being nice and that she's actually somewhat attracted to me and is confused. Anyway, I kind of told her that if I seem a bit distant from her to not blame herself, since I might need time. She wasn't happy and has seemed a bit depressed lately. There's some other guy that's been chasing her and she's trying to let him down nicely, but after I've been distant today she went out to eat with him, so she kind of gave in. I don't like sitting back and letting this guy chase her. --- I care about her and I want to be there for her, and she knows and appreciates it. I don't have any expectations for her reaction with the flowers, but I know that she + her mom will melt if I send her some flowers. She's a sucker for cheesy stuff and I am too, and they both think I'm sweet already. I don't want to get a whole bouquet though, and I don't want to spend too much. Maybe a few roses? Do you guys think this is a good idea?
organizedchaos Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 No. You will become the "nice" guy. She is saving you future heartbreak.
MidwestUSA Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 I think it 's a great idea, but I'd stay away from roses. You should be able to get some sort of small mixed bouquet without spending a lot of money. Very sweet of you. Does she live at home?
Author Highschool Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 No. You will become the "nice" guy. She is saving you future heartbreak. I think I'm already the nice guy, I'm her best guy friend atm (and she only has one really close girlfriend) and she might just be scared to lose the friendship. I don't like thinking about this too much because I'll completely overthink the situation. I think it 's a great idea, but I'd stay away from roses. You should be able to get some sort of small mixed bouquet without spending a lot of money. Very sweet of you. Does she live at home? Okay, I like that idea. Roses are a bit too much? Yeah, she does (we're both 18 at university near home), but her parents are both ill. She has a lot of stuff she's going through, and she loves spontaneous things so she'll love this.
Author Highschool Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 (edited) I don't think flowers is a good idea. When I was in high school, a girl in my class (she actually hated me; thought I was an a-hole) had a family crisis: her mother had a brain aneurysm and died in her arms. Despite the fact that we didn't get along at all, I felt bad for her. So I made up a Build-A-Bear for her and gave it to her. After that, she lit up whenever I came around and we became good friends (I think she developed a crush on me, but I wasn't into her like that). As recently as a few years ago, when I ran into her at a bar, she still remembered what I did and still gave me that same look. I think something more personal like that would mean more to her. But do it to be kind, not to get a**. That's a sad story, I'm sorry for her loss. That's a nice thing you did! --- All of her issues have been going on for a while but there's a few new ones. Plus she's stressed like crazy. A friend of mine wanted to cut her off so he's hanging around her less (he only hung around her a bit because I am), and he thinks I should cut her off and ask this other girl out that seems interested in me. I think she realizes that my friend's trying to cut her off, so I'd like to make up for his immaturity too. And she loves when I'm sweet/thoughtful, she deserves it. I'm thinking of these: https://d1pfu8616n8l2v.cloudfront.net/products/170x138_UFN1042.jpg No chocolates or anything needed I think. These look nice! Also, it asks for her phone number. I put it in but I hope they don't call before they deliver? I might need help with a message haha. Edited November 15, 2013 by Highschool
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