6 year relationship ended has me frazzled

[bulls42]

I was in a relationship for 6 years with a girl but I cheated countless times because I guess I couldn't say no to other girls and we finally broke up in Feb.

 

She found someone right away and I've dated about 6 girls but still can't find anything

 

She called me in summer and said I miss you and love you, asked me out to pizza and movie, while she was with her new boyfriend, but I didn't answer her call, she got mad at me never talked to me again

 

Now I met some girl named Dani but I texted too much and probably scared her away by asking her to be my gf after two dates but she was looking for a bf too so i figure ask but now she won't talk to me

 

I feel alone but since I've been with so many women I just want a relationship

 

I've been with roughly 25-30 women and I'm 28 but just feel like I can't get anyone now and feel my confidence slipping

 

I don't consider myself a bad looking guy and have a lot of great qualities (state job, car, expensive apartment, good at sports (soccer, bball), family shore house, a lot of different friends from north and south jersey)

 

Yet, for the first time since I was 15, I am having a hard time finding someone

 

Now I have sex dreams about my ex gf, I mean the sex was great and fun, but just couldn't stay together because of personality differences

 

I was with a girl last night that I work with and although we had sex and have been seeing each other I just don't feel the same about her as she feels for me

 

Idk I'm not complaining or whining, I just feel kinda lost after being in a 6 year relationship with someone for so long

 

Any advice from anyone would be appreciated....

[Confusedguy81]

"I don't consider myself a bad looking guy and have a lot of great qualities (state job, car, expensive apartment, good at sports (soccer, bball), family shore house, a lot of different friends from north and south jersey)"

 

No offense but none of those things display your qualities. They just display materialistic stuff (not whether you're kind, funny, extroverted, etc.)

 

It's also hard to feel bad for you since you're a cheater. You also seem to can't live without a woman which means in some form you are uncomfortable with yourself.

 

Maybe being single for a bit will do you some good. Learn more about yourself.