Dumped85 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Does anyone on here believe it was there own fault that there former partner left. I feel my co dependent behavior pushed her away, my negative character, my depression, my lack of communication and my fear of intimacy caused her to leave . All very bad traits to have I think. It sucks because I cared for her alot. 5 months later and I still blame myself.
Nubcake Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 (edited) Does anyone on here believe it was there own fault that there former partner left. I feel my co dependent behavior pushed her away, my negative character, my depression, my lack of communication and my fear of intimacy caused her to leave . All very bad traits to have I think. It sucks because I cared for her alot. 5 months later and I still blame myself. I know it was my fault. I was selfish, distant, and took her for granted. Im not just saying that because im hurt. Was able to reflect on the relationship and can list many situations and how I should have acted, but didn't hurting her. I notice throughout the relationship her gradually losing her love and everything I did causing it. I also know what changes I have to make personality/behavioral wise and honestly knowing for a fact if I did during the relationship we would still be together. How the hell are you suppose to get over a breakup with someone you love when it was legitimately your fault causing it to end knowing what you should have done. I dont know your situation, but if you gave it your all you have nothing to regret. Just wasn't meant to be not being compatible. Edited November 15, 2013 by Nubcake 1
AShogunNamedMarcus Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 I know it was my fault. I was selfish, distant, and took her for granted. Im not just saying that because im hurt. Was able to reflect on the relationship and can list many situations and how I should have acted, but didn't hurting her. I notice throughout the relationship her gradually losing her love and everything I did causing it. I also know what changes I have to make personality/behavioral wise and honestly knowing for a fact if I did during the relationship we would still be together. How the hell are you suppose to get over a breakup with someone you love when it was legitimately your fault causing it to end knowing what you should have done. I dont know your situation, but if you gave it your all you have nothing to regret. Just wasn't meant to be not being compatible. ditto this for me. word for word
Reels Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 I should had controlled anger, should have been more kind and forgiving, as well as polite, calm.. Obviously I regret.
2fargone Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 I made mistakes. I know she was/is hurt. I also know that some of it is 'perceived' on her side, since we talked about it briefly. Once concluded that we 'both royally screwed up'(her words) I don't feel responsible for the fact that she decides to not work things out. Especially since it would have been easily fixed. Do I regret it ? Sure. Have I learned my lesson ? Sure.
Author Dumped85 Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 I made mistakes. I know she was/is hurt. I also know that some of it is 'perceived' on her side, since we talked about it briefly. Once concluded that we 'both royally screwed up'(her words) I don't feel responsible for the fact that she decides to not work things out. Especially since it would have been easily fixed. Do I regret it ? Sure. Have I learned my lesson ? Sure. Ite interesting how things can be perceived as something else hey, I know that feeling all to well. Hence why she left, complete misunderstanding.
Reels Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Ite interesting how things can be perceived as something else hey, I know that feeling all to well. Hence why she left, complete misunderstanding. Possibly.. Prob thinks a lot of wrong to be correct.
HorseLuck Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Oh yeah..definitely. It is greener on the other side, lol.
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