castroadis Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Hi friends, I broke up with my ex boyfriend on early july this year and right off the bat started dating this man. Things were really passionate at first- he was very into me, but I would often explode on him and be an emotional mess. Eventually I asked that we please take it slow, for I was really fresh off my breakup from a 3year relationship (1year Long Distance). That relationship basically ended because he didn't want me to move with him. This took a toll on my self esteem (which was not great to begin with) and I admittedly was a wreck, I demanded things from the person I started dating and we broke up, but continued seeing each other and occasionally having sex (due to my insistence, I am very sexually attracted to him). My long distance ex came back to town and I saw him to exchange some belongings. I told the person I was dating and he basically said: 'It's your problem, I don't want to be part of it. I think you should get back with him'. Even tough he doesn't know why we broke up. I really think I got some closure from seeing my ex and wanted to give this new guy a genuine honest chance, since I started to really like him. Some drama unfolded between him and my male best friend. He got off his psych meds and started lashing out on some friends of his, including me. He is irritable, distrustful and very touchy. He told me we could reestablish a cordiality little by little. I don't know how to go about it. I really like him, but it seems every time I reach out to him, he's on the defensive. I really want to gives this relationship a sincere chance. Any thoughts or opinions??
soccerrprp Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 It seems to me that he is the one that needs to make the circumstances more amenable to a relationship. If I understand correctly, he's on meds and he chooses not to take them at times. How irresponsible is that? Really, I would be almost immediately turned off if I found out that my gf was on psych meds and chooses to be irresponsible at the expense of herself and others around her. Don't need that in my life. Never mind that it sounds like it's too soon for you to date again.....
Author castroadis Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 Thank you, soccerrprp. He is not taking his meds because he hasn't been able to schedule a refill and appointment with his psychiatrist. Why do you think it's too soon for me to date?
soccerrprp Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Thank you, soccerrprp. He is not taking his meds because he hasn't been able to schedule a refill and appointment with his psychiatrist. Why do you think it's too soon for me to date? "I would often explode on him and be an emotional mess. Eventually I asked that we please take it slow, for I was really fresh off my breakup from a 3year relationship (1year Long Distance)..." Your own words. But he has made an appointment, right?
Author castroadis Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 I don't know. His communication with me has dwindled considerably in the past days. I feel ready to initiate dating, maybe not so much as a serious relationship. I really like him and to be rejected by him is really making me feel like a piece of crap. I tried to be honest with him, but it wasn't received lightly. Maybe it's all too fresh, but it gets real tough to convince yourself you are worth a damm after his sudden change of heart. I understand he might be feeling under the weather, irate against the world and his own failed past relationships (he was some considerable baggage too) I just want him to confide in me and don't know how to initiate a road towards trust and communication.
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