skela Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 Met a guy on LS and we hit it off REALLY well. (he's been banned so he won't see this LOL) Amazing chemistry and even though he lives far away we started talking about him flying over for an amazing weekend (at my expense). When we first started talking he sent me a fake pic of himself as a joke and led me to believe that was him for a bit. It was funny. We decided to text instead of email and when he first texted me I pretended he had the wrong number for a bit and we both found it funny. This was my first time meeting anyone online so I wasn’t comfortable sending full pics of myself so I would send body shots without my face or just face shots etc. He did the same too. Anyway, he said my body looked different in pics so he was getting concerned. It was true - my daughter is a teen fitness celeb and we’re both being filmed for a tv show while we prep for a fitness comp - I’ve lost a bit of weight recently – not a lot and added more muscle. Decided to tease him a bit and sent him some older pics and one that was so obviously photoshopped. Btw these were all photos of me. He took it seriously and said he didn’t trust me and didn’t want to talk to me anymore. I was laughing and was going to respond that it was a joke and tell him to skype me to prove it. At that moment I received a call from my doctor that test results my daughter had on a lump weren’t good and we had to come in immediately for a biopsy. My life turned upside down and everything else seemed insignificant. My life has been in turmoil for the past 2 weeks while I get my daughter through this. I feel horrible that I have left him thinking that I betrayed him. After all this time do you think he would understand? I can do full disclosure – I have an established facebook page with pics, twitter, linkedin, been in the news with my daughter for years….
Author skela Posted November 14, 2013 Author Posted November 14, 2013 Have to be at the hospital for the next 4 hours so will respond to any posts after. Thanks so much!!
Titania22 Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 On the bright side, even though he is banned, he might just make a new account, and might see your thread. 1
HomanWater Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 Have you verified this guy is actually legit and not just troll who wanted your pics to his collection?
ExpatInItaly Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 Is there a particular reason you were going to foot the bill for his journey, without ever having met him? 2
Mascara Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 Ugh is this the guy who's about 20 years younger than you that you were practically cybering with in earlier threads? I can't believe you're on here asking for yet more advice about how to bed much younger men.... seriously, they're a dime a dozen, go onto POF or something... it'll be a hell of a lot cheaper than flying him up to Canada. Interesting that he ended up thinking you were fake though, when he was practically drooling over you at first.
bentleychic Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 No advice, but I'm sorry about your daughter. Hope she's okay.
Author skela Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 On the bright side, even though he is banned, he might just make a new account, and might see your thread. He said his IP address was blocked so I doubt it :-) i still have his contact info just not sure I should
Author skela Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 Have you verified this guy is actually legit and not just troll who wanted your pics to his collection? Yeah, that day he started sending me full body shots that included his face. I had no doubts. But I still wasn't that comfortable sending mine that's why i would have skyped instead.
Author skela Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 Is there a particular reason you were going to foot the bill for his journey, without ever having met him? Well, he is younger and I am more financially established. I told him he would have to pay a portion of his plane tic. The hotel and stuff I wanted to do was pricey so I didn't think it was fair to ask him to foot that. It didn't really bother me.
Author skela Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 Ugh is this the guy who's about 20 years younger than you that you were practically cybering with in earlier threads? I can't believe you're on here asking for yet more advice about how to bed much younger men.... seriously, they're a dime a dozen, go onto POF or something... it'll be a hell of a lot cheaper than flying him up to Canada. Interesting that he ended up thinking you were fake though, when he was practically drooling over you at first. yeup, that's the one and I'm not asking for advice about bedding him - just advice on whether or not I should clear up the misconception. I don't like the feeling that he thinks I was jerking him around. Actually, they might be a dime a dozen for you but with the hours I work and looking after my kids I don't have the time to go out a lot and meet people and i'm not that comfortable meeting people online. This was my first time for that. He also lives in Canada just another part. He thought I was fake because my body looked different in certain photos since I have been training 2 hours a day and changed my diet to prep for comp. Also, as a joke I did send him a badly photoshopped pic. Bad timing just messed up me letting him know that it was a joke and filling him in on everything.
FitChick Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 You don't have to be a member to read posts. Anyone can. You just can't reply. No other men in Canada whom you could have sex with for free?
Author skela Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 We actually hit it off really well and connected on so many different levels. There were a couple other guys that were hitting on me locally at that time that just weren't doing it for me in the same way. I guess also it was so exciting him flying in and I had planned some amazing things for the weekend. Ironically, I would have had to postpone anyway with everything that happened after. The age difference did bother me some times but I wasn't looking for a long term relationship - I was just looking for some fun. In some ways he was also really mature for his age. If I can afford it and i say look you pay for a portion and I pay for all the rest so that I don't have to go cheap I don't think it's that bad.
Author skela Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 You don't have to be a member to read posts. Anyone can. You just can't reply. Oh, I didn't know that. I think he was really into replying. Doubt he would just go online to read posts.
FitChick Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Oh, I didn't know that. I think he was really into replying. Doubt he would just go online to read posts. If I liked someone I'd met on LS, I'd read every post I could. Why don't you fly to him? If things didn't work out you'd see a part of the country you hadn't (if that's the case) and he could show you around so you'd have a nice vacation.
Author skela Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 Why don't you just hang around the high schools with candy bars in hand? Just kidding. Hope you do well. Tried that LOL. Okay, even that's too young for me and he wasn't that young. I'm sure he'd been out of high school for at least 2 months JOKE. He was in his twenties!! Thanks for the laugh though. I needed that. And like I said he was actually quite mature for his age. He taught me a few things. He is someone that I would value as a friend in my life. Sometimes age is just a number. I don't feel, act or look my age
Author skela Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 If I liked someone I'd met on LS, I'd read every post I could. Why don't you fly to him? If things didn't work out you'd see a part of the country you hadn't (if that's the case) and he could show you around so you'd have a nice vacation. Well, he now thinks I'm a fraud since I didn't clear that misunderstanding up so that isn't possible and I doubt he's interested in any post I would have on here. Anyway, today is the first day I have even opened my computer since my misunderstanding with him. I was planning on doing that for him in Toronto because I don't think he had been here before. All my intentions were very sincere and I don't like knowing that he thinks I was playing around with him. Everything I told him was true. The irony is I have to fly out to Vancouver, where he lives, after my daughter is finished at the hospital because we are going to be featured on a Vancouver Breakfast tv to talk about her fitness stuff and her medical stuff because it's very rare for a 16 year old to have to deal with breast cancer and it's time to make young girls aware of that.
Author skela Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 No advice, but I'm sorry about your daughter. Hope she's okay. Thank you so much!! This has been the hardest thing I have ever had to experience in my life and hope to never have to go through it again.
Author skela Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 Thanks so much for the responses. I have decided that after everything in my life is calmer I will send him a message letting him know that I was joking and why I didn't respond sooner - more just for my own peace of mind. It's not a nice feeling knowing that someone thinks that I was screwing around with them.
lollipopspot Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 just write the letter now and get it over with. the more time that goes by the worse the outcome I think.
Author skela Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 I thought about doing it now but I feel like i'm in quite an emotional state right now that i'm not sure how I would feel if he were to react in a hostile manner. I try to not usually over think things like this but feeling a bit raw right now. Normally, I would just shoot off an email saying look guy it was just a joke that went too far. I would like to remain friends because we connected so well - I think that might be the issue. Anyway, enough babbling lol
ExpatInItaly Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Is it possible that maybe he got cold feet or met someone new, and is using this as his way out? Just something to consider
Author skela Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 No, that's not it. He def felt I was messing with him.
Author skela Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 What happened with the other guy? The FWB guy? Well, he was dragging his feet so I sent him a message letting him know that I wasn't interested anymore so I was withdrawing my offer. Then he started sending me messages all the time and calling to try and get together. Anyway, with everything that was happening in my life I haven't been online for awhile and I noticed yesterday that there were a lot of messages that I'm not going to respond to. I had met this really nice guy that had asked me out but again with everything in my life I completely forgot about it and he probably thinks I just stood him up. I had been completely offline for a bit and didn't see his messages until yesterday as well.
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