rweb7 Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 Here's our quick dating history: Dating this girl, pretty, smart, non-partier - I really connect with her. She's 18 and i'm 19. we've been dating for roughly 2 1/2 weeks, seeing her 1-2 times a week, and it has been going well I think. Our 2nd date we talked for 4 hours straight lots of laughs and smiles, 3rd date we went for a nice walk at a park, little quiet but not bad, now we had a skiing planned for tomorrow, but yesterday I called her to chat (we chat for 30 mins last night) and she mentioned that we should wait a couple weeks, then suggested we go see a movie. I then said yes, then I asked if she'd like to spend the day together, which she quickly again said yes. Plus, she was suppose to call me yesterday, but didn't. So i sent her a "what's up" text. She seemed happy to text me; asking me how my day was, misc. questions, adding emoticons, etc. But kept saying she called me, but it went straight to voicemail, insisting my phone was off. When my call history showed no call from her, and my phone was on all day. Is this a bad sign? But what concern me is that at this point in time, we have not kissed, hugged, held hands or anything. I want to be bf/gf with her eventually, am I going in the right direction? Could she think we're just friends? Any tips/experiences you could share with me would be awesome. Thanks appreciate it!
Philosoraptor Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 So she seems happy to contact you and spend time with you. And you're overthinking this why? Your phone may not have been off, but you could have had no service for a few moments and that'll do the same thing. If you want to kiss her then do something about it. She seems to like you, so kiss her next time you take her on a date. I swear it's like some people are so caught in a negative thought that they are destined to bust up a potential relationship before it even happens. Just do what feels right, stop overthinking, and just enjoy your time with her.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 So she seems happy to contact you and spend time with you. And you're overthinking this why? Your phone may not have been off, but you could have had no service for a few moments and that'll do the same thing. If you want to kiss her then do something about it. She seems to like you, so kiss her next time you take her on a date. I swear it's like some people are so caught in a negative thought that they are destined to bust up a potential relationship before it even happens. Just do what feels right, stop overthinking, and just enjoy your time with her. I agree with the above. Technical problems really do happen sometimes; I don't think it's a cop-out in this case. If you like her and want to kiss her, go for it. She is showing signs of interest. Try to stay positive and good luck!
Author rweb7 Posted November 14, 2013 Author Posted November 14, 2013 So she seems happy to contact you and spend time with you. And you're overthinking this why? Your phone may not have been off, but you could have had no service for a few moments and that'll do the same thing. If you want to kiss her then do something about it. She seems to like you, so kiss her next time you take her on a date. I swear it's like some people are so caught in a negative thought that they are destined to bust up a potential relationship before it even happens. Just do what feels right, stop overthinking, and just enjoy your time with her. I know what you mean. I agree, I may be over thinking, but I'm just worried that she might be interested in a friendship with me, rather then a relationship. Evident from my post. But i'll try and go for a kiss tomorrow. So should I let it take its time? Appreciate the straight-up advice.
vtran31 Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 worst case scenario, you're her new gay best friend. Best case scenario, she is waiting for you to make a move on her This happened to me once. We acted like a couple all the time (people commented on it) but when I finally got up the ballz to ask her out several months later, she wrote me an email saying how pissed she was her "best friend" asked her out :bunny:
Philosoraptor Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 I know what you mean. I agree, I may be over thinking, but I'm just worried that she might be interested in a friendship with me, rather then a relationship. Evident from my post. But i'll try and go for a kiss tomorrow. So should I let it take its time? Appreciate the straight-up advice. Only way you'll find out is to just do something. Kiss her during your next date and you will know for sure, 100%, where you stand. If she kisses you back, great, you have potential to take this relationship further. If she pushes you away, great, you'll know where you stand you can move on to someone else. 1
pteromom Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 I may be over thinking, but I'm just worried that she might be interested in a friendship with me, rather then a relationship. It's possible. Only she knows what's in her head and heart. The only way to find out is by taking the risk. But i'll try and go for a kiss tomorrow. So should I let it take its time? Definitely go for the kiss! As far as the pace of the relationship, assuming the kiss goes well, just let it be natural. Be assertive (taking initiative to call, text, make moves, etc.) but not aggressive or clingy. There's a natural flow to it if you just relax and don't overthink it.
d0nnivain Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 She's backing off because after 2.5 weeks if you haven't so much as held her hand or hugged her, she's convinced you are not attracted to her. If you don't make a move soon, she's outta here.
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