sheleftme Posted December 22, 2004 Posted December 22, 2004 I'm in a quandry here. My g/f of 7 years kicked me out 1 month and a half ago. We had decided to go to cousnelign while we were seperated and then she cahnged ehr mind. For the last 2 years we had difficulties in the realtionship. good times and then bad. I couldn't see that I was depressed but she loved me and cared for me nonetheless. But I guess she got fed up w/ my lack of attention to her, and her putting in 110% and me puttign in 40%. This period has been a good one for me. It has forced me to see that I have been depressed and am seeking help. I have aslo been doing alot of personal growth and introsepection. I realized I truly did treat her not badly but not as well as I would of liked. But I truly deeply love this girl. And she tells my friends she still loves me. But she feels I will never change. What can i do. I don't want to lose her. But she won't talk to me cuz she is afraid she will take me back and I will be the same person. How can I show her I've changed. Is there any hope for me? She's traveling out of the contry on Xmas day for a month. What should I do till then and after then. What should I do?
munkeygirl Posted December 23, 2004 Posted December 23, 2004 It sounds as if she obviously loves you still, but you truly have to change for her to come back. It may take more time than a month and a half to turn your life around. Change your life. Take time for yourself.. execise, get closer to friends and family, love yourself etc. DO you have mutual friends? They will tell her about how great you are doing and how you are changing for the better. Even if she won't talk to you now, she may eventually. Don't put pressure on her or rush her. It's funny how you sometimes need to lose something signifigant to gain perspective on your life. Good luck!
alphamale Posted December 23, 2004 Posted December 23, 2004 see your Doctor, you may need Prozac, Zoloft or Paxil. These are SSRIs, which stands for Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors. You did say you were depressed.
sheleftme Posted December 23, 2004 Posted December 23, 2004 I left soemthign out. What prompted her to kick me out this last time is that I hit her on the arm. She says I punched her I say slapped. Either way her reality is the only thing that matters. There has always been violence in our relationship. Mostly her hitting me and she went to cousneling for it and we ahve been violence free for a bout 1 and 1/2 years now. But now I hit her. It has become such a natural thing in this realtionship. that it hasnt been a big deal for me. What do you guys think. Should I let it go. I know now more than ever i need the time to get myself str8. Should I move on, do you guys think it is too hard or too late to reapir. I understand it doesn't matter what has happened in the past, once a guy hits a girl everything changes So I'm sure all her friedns hate me. And if she was my firend I would suggest she stay away from me as well. Do i have any hope in the long term sense (5-6 months) or is this realtionship seriously distressed that I should let it go. I'm convicned she still loves me but doesn't want to get back int eh old habit. What to do?
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