Dez Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 all day every day i can't stop thinking of her. every night this week i've been having dreams of her. its crazy. no matter how much i try to shift my attention elsewhere, distract myself, she keeps popping up. the good times keep reminding me how much i want her back. this sucks, i wish i could erase her. any suggestions?
mtnbiker3000 Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 Sounds like you have her on a pedestal and an addiction of her. There are ways to break an addiction to a person. I would study up on this... 2
barky2 Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 Sounds like you have too much free time. What are you doing in your social life? Barky 2
Author Dez Posted November 14, 2013 Author Posted November 14, 2013 Sounds like you have too much free time. What are you doing in your social life? Barky thats not really the problem. when i'm at work, i get reminded of her, because we would text all day. when i'm out with friends, at sporting events, or go traveling, everything reminds me of her. every song i here. every time i see couples showing PDA. we use to share every experience together and its driving me insane!
mtnbiker3000 Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 thats not really the problem. when i'm at work, i get reminded of her, because we would text all day. when i'm out with friends, at sporting events, or go traveling, everything reminds me of her. every song i here. every time i see couples showing PDA. we use to share every experience together and its driving me insane! Are you practicing 100%, absolute No Contact? If not, do it now!! If so, how long? 1
barky2 Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 How long u been broken up for? What's you're going thru is normal...for a certain period of time. Part of grieving, is doing what you're doing. Keep fighting. Somehow try and when you think about it change your thought, think of a Pamela Anderson or something Barky thats not really the problem. when i'm at work, i get reminded of her, because we would text all day. when i'm out with friends, at sporting events, or go traveling, everything reminds me of her. every song i here. every time i see couples showing PDA. we use to share every experience together and its driving me insane!
Author Dez Posted November 14, 2013 Author Posted November 14, 2013 How long u been broken up for? What's you're going thru is normal...for a certain period of time. Part of grieving, is doing what you're doing. Keep fighting. Somehow try and when you think about it change your thought, think of a Pamela Anderson or something Barky broken up since May. maybe because our anniversary is one week away and the holidays are coming up. we shared our best moments during this time of year.
LearningtoFly62 Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 Dez, I know the feeling man. It's been since July since my break up. My emotions have been on a constant roller coaster. Just know that you are not alone. I've found a lot of relief through my gym time. This helps me especially on my angry days. I have been able to start getting into shape and improve my psyche. This was also a place I had no memories of my ex. She wasn't someone that enjoyed physical fitness too much. Find an outlet such as this to throw yourself into that will prepare you for future opportunity.
Minneloa Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 broken up since May. maybe because our anniversary is one week away and the holidays are coming up. we shared our best moments during this time of year. When is the last time you were in contact with her? Last date of contact is often when the healing process begins, rather than the breakup itself.
Author Dez Posted November 14, 2013 Author Posted November 14, 2013 When is the last time you were in contact with her? Last date of contact is often when the healing process begins, rather than the breakup itself. we spoke last month. but now she's using NC herself. i sent her a drunk text last week, she never responded.
Minneloa Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 we spoke last month. but now she's using NC herself. i sent her a drunk text last week, she never responded. Yeah, so you're relatively early on in the healing process even though you broke up in May. Continued contact comes with continued hope and connection, and you have to wean yourself from the person; many compare it to kicking a drug. I'm sorry you're hurting; it will get better, but it's a tough journey, especially at the beginning where you are. My best advice is to keep strict NC and occupy yourself as much as humanly possible with other things (movies, sports, trips, family, volunteer work, etc.) This is a great place to come vent, seek support, and post instead of reaching out to your ex. 1
harrybrown Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 Read up on the 180 and do this for yourself. Delete her number from your contacts. Do not contact her at all and especially when drunk.
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