krista28 Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 I’ve got this friend and she seems really protective. i was talking to this guy and we went on a date..we work together from time to time. i found out from our first date he was talking about lots of girls and he seemed a bit disinterested after that. so…my friend went up to him where we work the next day and said dontt sleep with her shell get attached and ill have to hear about it. don’t do it. so we did hangout ended up sleeping together and i didn’t hear from him for days. i finanlly got a response from him saying that he didn’t know there was a time limit on responses when my friend blew up on him. she exploded saying i told u to stay away from her and you are a jerk for not even talking to her. that she wasn’t a force to be reckoned with. why did she do this cuz she cares. she said she was trying to scare him ofg and she did…he blocked both our phones and facebook.
MidwestUSA Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 Your friend is looking out for you. You made a bad decision and had a one night stand with an older guy from work. He's deleted/blocked you, but you insist that you want to contact him. She's mad at him for taking advantage of you (in her eyes, although you were a willing participant). I have to ask, did he use a condom? You don't seem to be doing things that are in your own best interests right now. Why is that? 1
Phantom888 Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 Your behavior is very concerning. You have posted many times about this man who is not interested in you. You have a friend who protects you, but both are obsessive about this older guy. Please, for both your sake, do not contact this guy again or you will be put in jail eventually.
Author krista28 Posted November 14, 2013 Author Posted November 14, 2013 hm phantom I think you are overreacting a bit. jesus. no I have not talked to the guy..he clearly has blocked all communication with both of us and thinks were "crazy" cuz my friend freaked on him . iam more concerned about seeing him at work..this is why I called him...to try to smooth things over. jeez overreacting about sending us to jail come on! if I didn't have to work with the guy I wouldn't care.
Author krista28 Posted November 14, 2013 Author Posted November 14, 2013 haven't been doing things in my best interest because I seem to pick horrible guys that use ndhave no respect for me now I have to face this guy eventho he thiks Im craz..y. im definaely mrore concerned aboutmy pride at this+point.
HomanWater Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 Your behavior is very concerning. You have posted many times about this man who is not interested in you. You have a friend who protects you, but both are obsessive about this older guy. Please, for both your sake, do not contact this guy again or you will be put in jail eventually. What? Why would she be put in jail? She had some NSA sex with another guy but a guy decided to block her because of her crazy over-the-top controlling friend. This friend was either jealous and wanted this guy too or is overbearing and should mind her own business.
Author krista28 Posted November 14, 2013 Author Posted November 14, 2013 thanks homanwater, im not sure which it is but in the end its probably for the better, the guy didnt treat me with much respect.
Author krista28 Posted November 14, 2013 Author Posted November 14, 2013 theres someone else im interested in from afar anyways.
Phantom888 Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 What? Why would she be put in jail? She had some NSA sex with another guy but a guy decided to block her because of her crazy over-the-top controlling friend. This friend was either jealous and wanted this guy too or is overbearing and should mind her own business. If the harassing keeps up, the guy can call the police or get a restraining order. If they ignore the restraining order, then it's jail time. Yes NSA is fine if you can handle it, but a lot of women get attached via sex so it's not such a good idea. And yes it can land you in jail.
spiderowl Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Your friend is overly emotionally involved with you. There is something amiss there. She shouldn't be trying to separate you from guys, even if she thinks they are no good for you. If they were dangerous, that's another matter, then it would be fair enough for her to warn you of what she knew. I would wonder if she was gay or bisexua perhaps? It's not usual for friends of the same sex to be so protective or controlling, unless they are protecting you as their 'mate' or perhaps they are of low intelligence or socially inept.
Author krista28 Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 I donno but....I am not harassing this guy...please...I called him one time with an apology and I said I will see you at work. I did not harass him...my friend was the one getting angry with him. He is old news and I am moving on..no contact whatsoever. You are right, most women are not ok with NSA sex, and I did get attached. I am more embarrassed about seeing him at work...embarrassed that I will look crazy or obsessed even though I am not.. I just don't like there being arguments.
Author krista28 Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 phantom I am already feeling bad about this..and stressed out 24 7. telling me im going to jail really doesn't help matters.
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