GlowingSpirits Posted December 22, 2004 Posted December 22, 2004 Hi guys, This situation is a bit more complex, but for the sake of space (and time) I'll try get to the point: I'm in college and have known this girl (same school) for about a year and half. For about a year we've been very close. She's told me more about what's happening in her life and how she feels than she has to anyone else. I've done the same with her. For a while she's been hesitant about us 'dating' (she was getting over her last serious relationship), but now she seems excited about it. When we decided to do this, she told me, in all sincerity, that she loves me. Because I feel the same way (have felt actually), I told her I love her too. Anyway, we're going on a date soon and I really want it to be special and memorable... we're going out to see a movie, then ice skating (her suggestion)/light show outside and then warm up with some hot chocolate. Now, considering the fact that it's Christmas PLUS the whole date thing, I wanted to get her a gift. I went and shopped around and decided on and bought a heart-shaped necklace (not terribly pricey, in the mid-double-digits). It just feels right to get her something nice like this; I also felt like it would be good because it's something solid that she can hang on to to remind her of our first date (as opposed to flowers, chocolate, etc.). Now, maybe I'm being paranoid or something, but I just read somewhere that you shouldn't give jewelry on the first date. I can see how this is good general advice, but I feel like my situation is a bit different from the normal, generic 'first date'. So my question is: is the necklace too much, given the circumstances (how we feel about each other, Christmas, etc.)? Sorry if the answer to this is obvious or something; sometimes when it comes to these things I'm not really in the 'know'; I'm really just following my gut instinct. Should I ignore that instinct and follow the "first date rule"? Note: I have given her some gifts in the past, so this isn't the first one I'm giving her either. Thanks in advance for any answers!
johan Posted December 22, 2004 Posted December 22, 2004 I vote give it to her. If that's all it takes to screw things up then you may as well know about it now.
Max Zoom Posted December 22, 2004 Posted December 22, 2004 Max says save the necklace for next Christmas. It's a good gift and expresses your feelings for her but slow down dude. But then, you know this already don't you.?
johan Posted December 22, 2004 Posted December 22, 2004 Slow down? How could you go any slower than you have so far? It's time to get off the brakes.
mlncoolj2000 Posted December 22, 2004 Posted December 22, 2004 I think that you should give it to her. She would like it. You guys shouldn't have to slow down if you guys are serious about each other.
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