bohica Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 Hello I've been communicating with an old friend from high school. It started when she contacted me through facebook and we have been texting and talking pretty regularly for the past two weeks. We agreed to meet sometime soon for coffee or a drink. Although we hung around the same crowd we didn't know each other all too well (who really does in h.s) and we grow so much over the years. I was pretty attracted to her back then. We haven't seen each other in 20 yrs or so. She dated someone I knew and hung out with from time to time. They eventually had children together but never married. Tragically, he died in an accident about 15yrs ago. I don't recall being a the wake. I think I didn't learn of his passing until some time later. The thing is, I feel like there will be a giant elephant in the room and not sure how to handle it. Should I bring it up, talk about it or not say anything unless she brings him up? Thank you
MidwestUSA Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 It's been 15 years, so it won't be as bad as you think. She's had all that time to deal with it. If you play it by ear, I'm sure the opportunity to say something will come up. But, certainly easy enough to say "I'm so sorry about XXXX, he and I hung out some back in the day." You need no excuse for not being at the wake (if you weren't). Be sure to inquire as to how the kids are doing. Good luck!
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