Why do guys have so little self awareness and do so little self evaluation?

[sally12adams]

many men have an inferiority complex due to their genetic need to be an alpha male. your friend may be one of these men

 

This sounds quite convoluted. That he's actually not an alpha male so he feels inferior but decided to be "nasty" to act alpha male?

 

Now that you mentioned, he did seem to have an inferiority complex. He always wants to be known to have a great social life. He gets annoyed if not seen in that light. There was a time when I joked that he must not have been to a fancy club because it's at the other side of the city, he flared up and said he's been to fancy clubs at the other side of the city. Touche.

 

Not that it matters anymore but the psyche of such people has piqued my interest. And how he's got girlfriends one after another is also a puzzle.

 

If I'm not wrong, he was dating someone before he broke up with his LDR girlfriend.

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You might be interested to know that there have been studies that show that CEOs and highly successful people (usually men, because those make up the majority of those in such positions...) generally have very low 'EQ' or Emotional Intelligence.

 

Emotional Intelligence has many measures, but certainly self-awareness and empathy certainly accompany it.

 

I learned this while in the process of being groomed by a large multi-national corporation for positions of higher management. They were trying to introduce or at least sus out people's EQ, as they were having retention problems and other integrity related issues within the company at the time.

 

Ultimately, I rejected the opportunity because I was increasingly disgusted by the behavior of many of my peers. Took a big step back in favor of a simpler lifestyle among those more people and family focused.

 

Unfortunately for so many men, they are given the message by society and women (!!) that to be a 'man' IS to have the qualities you are describing. So it is a bit of a vicious circle that way. I'm glad to hear you aren't enabling it or participating in it. Count yourself lucky...

 

If having these qualities brings a person success what incentive is there to be any other way? What rewards are there for being what you seem to think men or women for that matter should be?