Author Hurtandangry44 Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 Yes, time will tell. Hope you got the satisfaction that you desired. You should now focus on moving on. Thanks Zahara. I actually think this will help me. It just bothered me so much that he thinks he can control everything and do anything he wants. All I did on the website was tell the truth, and that is one thing he cannot control. Even if doesnt respond, I know he cares because his reputation is very important to him. THAT gives me satisfaction.
AShogunNamedMarcus Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Thanks Zahara. I actually think this will help me. It just bothered me so much that he thinks he can control everything and do anything he wants. All I did on the website was tell the truth, and that is one thing he cannot control. Even if doesnt respond, I know he cares because his reputation is very important to him. THAT gives me satisfaction. After this you have to, have to let it go. If he responds, it's going to drag you right back into it and you will feel angrier and still want to hurt him. Convince yourself now that you made your peace with it. It's done, you got what you wanted and anything else that comes out of this will be negative to everyone. It's OK to feel this way. It means you are just like the rest of us. Remind yourself that it's perfectly fine to be angry, without having to do something about it. Give yourself this time to accept how you feel, it will go slowly and painfully and is the only way out. Surrender and forget the idea of further vengeance. 1
Author Hurtandangry44 Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 I did it. I told him about the website and told him I was also telling his girlfriend (which I actually haven't done). He didnt respond and I don't care. I'm glad I did it. Time will tell if I continue to feel that way. He hasn't responded. But there was an unintended consequence that makes me sad. His best friend, who I was extremely close to, defriended me off of facebook.
Zahara Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 (edited) He hasn't responded. But there was an unintended consequence that makes me sad. His best friend, who I was extremely close to, defriended me off of facebook. That's the way it goes. With this, you're probably going to be painted as the vengeful psycho ex and people will remove themselves from you. It'll reinforc as to why he shouldn't have been with you and while it's not the case, these things as I said before serve no purpose except to keep the drama going. Worst of all, it keeps prolonging the unhealthy attachment to him. Edited November 23, 2013 by Zahara
Author Hurtandangry44 Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 Hi everyone, I need opinions on two different things: 1. His ex wife has now contacted me asking me to delete the post for his kids sake. I do feel sympathetic and may delete it for that reason only. But then again, he gets off with no consequences. 2. Someone mentioned my workplace could fire me if they find out about the post. Unless he tells thm, I'm sure they won't find out but now I'm paranoid. Do you think it is a possibility?
Author Hurtandangry44 Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 Anyone have any insight?
Zahara Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Hi everyone, I need opinions on two different things: 1. His ex wife has now contacted me asking me to delete the post for his kids sake. I do feel sympathetic and may delete it for that reason only. But then again, he gets off with no consequences. 2. Someone mentioned my workplace could fire me if they find out about the post. Unless he tells thm, I'm sure they won't find out but now I'm paranoid. Do you think it is a possibility? All this drama you are causing for yourself. At the end of the day, there is no consequence on his part. He is still with that girl. He will still cheat if he wants to. However, his ex-wife now is involved. Dragging the kids in. You are paranoid about your job. When does it all stop? You're beginning to make yourself look bad. I'm not sure what you are getting out of this.
Author Hurtandangry44 Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 All this drama you are causing for yourself. At the end of the day, there is no consequence on his part. He is still with that girl. He will still cheat if he wants to. However, his ex-wife now is involved. Dragging the kids in. You are paranoid about your job. When does it all stop? You're beginning to make yourself look bad. I'm not sure what you are getting out of this. I haven't done anything since the original post and letting him know. Zahara, I value your opinion. Should I delete the post?
Zahara Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I haven't done anything since the original post and letting him know. Zahara, I value your opinion. Should I delete the post? Delete the post. Cleanse yourself from this mess. It's time for you to sever every tie you have that keeps you connected to all this drama and this man. It isn't worth it. Go and read on the Infidelity and Cheating forums. People have been married for decades being cheated on. Read on the OW/OM forum. People cheat. I've been cheated on. Do you think everyone is out there seeking vengeance and consequences? No. It's life. Accept he was a douchebag and move on and live your life. Stop putting it on hold for this nonsense. The best revenge is living well. And it's true. What you're doing now is just affecting your own emotional and mental health with zero return. You aren't getting anything out of it. Did he get punished? No. Were there consequences on his part? No. Has he apologized to you? No. Is he still living life happily, possibly watching the football game at this moment with his new girl, drinking beers and downing chips? Yes. Where are you? You're here still harping on this. The only one affected is you.
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