sevilleboo Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 I really love my boyfriend a lot. We have been together 2 years and its been the best. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I'm only 19 but hes touched me in a way nobody else ever can. I cant explain it but i wanna marry this boy. Recently hes been having family issues. He comes from an abusive home. He doesnt talk to me about it anymore but ive heard his mom screaming at him on the phone and hes told me in the past things shes done. She says really mean stuff for no apparent reason. I guess my boyfriend is also feeling like a failure because he is turning 19 soon and he still doesnt have enough money for his own apartment. Now its like he is taking it out on me. We will get in the littlest argument about like nothing and he will break up with me. Or he will leave and just start ignoring my calls. It usually blows over in a couple days and he always apologizes. Today we got into an argument over sex. He wanted to have it and i agreed but then i started like teasing him a bit. I was just trying to play hard to get but then he gets all angry about it. I think it was really whatever was going on at home combined with this that set him off. He gets mad and leaves. When i call him he tells me he wants to break up and he yelled at me and he hung up. I waited a few hours and i texted him. Asking why he always had to react so badly to everything. He texted me back and said that he was sorry but he didnt want to be with me. He said all we do is fight and hes tired of bringing me down. And hes going through a lot and he keeps taking itout on me and he just wants to be alone. And that i can find a guy thats better then him. And that he hopes that i don't think he is dumping me just because of the sex thing. I texted him back and begged him to just talk to me. I called him and he turned his phone off. I have been crying half the night. idk what to do. He is just going through a lot right now but i know it will get better and i dont want to lose him over this. He is my soulmate.
Ninjainpajamas Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 You're only 19....what love is to you, let alone the rest of your life is way beyond your comprehension at this point. You guys are kids, and are going to handle a relationship like kids...these are just emotions you've got to learn to deal with, love isn't about chasing someone and holding them under water until they drown. It's not about convincing a guy or hoping or having this imagination that he's going to see what you have to offer or that he wants to be with you and you're the girl of his dreams after all...I mean how could he just throw away the last 2 years, didn't it mean something to him! Get that out of your head, you and every other teenager are thinking the same way about their boyfriends, there's no difference. It wasn't the best, you're just looking at it from one perspective, without any knowledge, understanding of what it actually takes to make a relationship last, just emotions..you don't know you were just in the honeymoon phase and that's what you think is going to come back...because boys/men are so invested and available during that time...then they just pull away. The guy doesn't want to be with you, use your head...why are you trying to make him do something he doesn't want to do? why do you want him to be with you because of how you feel and not because of how he feels for you? why do you think this is about what you think? I know that you're going to be extremely emotional, you are also very young...so I hope this guy just continues to ignore you until you can get over this...I know you want to go down there and chase him, beg him, make him get back with you but I hope he continues to resist and doesn't just string you along, because the guy wants out and the saddest part is that he's so young he might even come back later just because. If you're going to think like this though and let your emotions dictate everything, sadly you are going to be here on LS for a long long time, look around, there's women who think just like you who are much older than you are...and that's your future if you keep chasing men who don't want to be with you, and you just think that forcing a man to be with you is the only way to make him love you...like it's got to be fought for an earned. I don't understand how so many women have the energy to do this with men throughout their lives...its mind-blowing, and must be utterly draining...all because of some damn daddy/mommy issues...sad. 1
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