greenlantern Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 (edited) My boyfriend is having lunch with his ex today. He didn't tell me until last night. They were together for about 3 years, but he was never in love with her, and he said that he even hated her when they were still together. During the summer, he learned that she had been saying that he cheated on her, he had a small ..., and other mean things about him. She also owes him money. I guess the lunch is to tell her that he was mad at her all summer because of the things she said about him, get his money back, and not have to deal with her anymore (I don't know what this means to him). What I don't understand is why it has to be a lunch. I don't know. I mean I know logically that he does not want to get back together with her, but a part of me still feels jealous and insecure. It's probably because of things that have happened with another one of his exes, which I have posted about before. It's probably just me right? Completely crazy and insecure... Edited November 13, 2013 by greenlantern
mammasita Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 I think it's weird. Why does he have to have lunch with her? Why can't you go with?
ExpatInItaly Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 (edited) My boyfriend is having lunch with his ex today. He didn't tell me until last night. They were together for about 3 years, but he was never in love with her, and he said that he even hated her when they were still together. During the summer, he learned that she had been saying that he cheated on her, he had a small ..., and other mean things about him. She also owes him money. I guess the lunch is to tell her that he was mad at her all summer because of the things she said about him, get his money back, and not have to deal with her anymore (I don't know what this means to him). What I don't understand is why it has to be a lunch. I don't know. I mean I know logically that he does not want to get back together with her, but a part of me still feels jealous and insecure. It's probably because of things that have happened with another one of his exes, which I have posted about before. It's probably just me right? Completely crazy and insecure... That's because it absolutely doesn't have to be a lunch. He's choosing to spend time with her when it isn't necessary at all. If he needs the money, he could pick it up or meet someone and get the cash. I'd be very suspicious of meeting for lunch - he just doesn't need to do that to get the money or tell her that he's mad. Please. EDIT: Is this is the same ex who he's had trouble "getting closure" with? I just read a couple of your other threads. This has red flags waving all over it. You have a reason to be wary of this lunch. Don't try to convince yourself that you're just being crazy and insecure - he's got a spotty history with exes. Edited November 14, 2013 by ExpatInItaly
Author greenlantern Posted November 14, 2013 Author Posted November 14, 2013 That's because it absolutely doesn't have to be a lunch. He's choosing to spend time with her when it isn't necessary at all. If he needs the money, he could pick it up or meet someone and get the cash. I'd be very suspicious of meeting for lunch - he just doesn't need to do that to get the money or tell her that he's mad. Please. EDIT: Is this is the same ex who he's had trouble "getting closure" with? I just read a couple of your other threads. This has red flags waving all over it. You have a reason to be wary of this lunch. Don't try to convince yourself that you're just being crazy and insecure - he's got a spotty history with exes. No, not the same ex. The lunch ex was right before the closure ex. If it were the same ex, it would not even be a question for me.
soccerrprp Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 He doesn't have to have lunch to get his money and tell her how he feels.
Delilah1623 Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 Why would he need to tell his ex how he is feeling? My ex hurt my feelings but I've moved on and don't need to let him know about it.
Delilah1623 Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 And why does he feel he needs to force an apology from someone he wasn't in love with and hated? Plus he hid it from you. Sounds fishy to me.
Pretty.in.Pink Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 No, not the same ex. The lunch ex was right before the closure ex. If it were the same ex, it would not even be a question for me. Too many exes swirling around the morass. Maybe you should become an ex! No you are not crazy or insecure. I don't care what any ex of mine thinks, says, or does.
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