jba10582 Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 Lately, I have either been imagining or receiving genuine interest from girls who are in current relationships. I was out with a friend to grab a few drinks and the waitress had basically stopped everything she was doing for over an hour to talk with us, going on about her career and life including her 3-yr relationship. She had other tables that she allowed other people to take. People are not TYPICALLY this up-front even if I show interest and ask questions. I found it interesting that SHE ASKED for our contact information (albeit due to work related things). Neither one of really felt like she was lying about her boyfriend (due to her congruence open body language and details about him) and didn't want to hassle with that. logic says she was just being open and friendly, emotion says she was unhappy in her relationship. maybe only because of the following. Similarly, a neighbor of mine IS having issues with her husband. I know them both pretty well. She tries to flirt sometimes and invites me over to "come check this out" fairly often when he is not around. I politely excuse myself after a short time because I am aware of what's going on. I had not experienced this too much when I was with my ex in a LTR because I was happy, did not flirt with other girls and prob didn't make myself too available. Is this a typical reverse GIGs thing that people entertain? I am not consciously doing anything or projecting anything to encourage cheating.
EasyHeart Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 Women who are unhappy in their relationship often look for attention and validation from other men to make them feel good about themselves. It doesn't mean they like you or that they are going to leave their relationship for you. In fact, they're looking for that attention and validation just so they can stick with their relationship. Basically, they are using you as an emotional dildo. 1
Author jba10582 Posted November 13, 2013 Author Posted November 13, 2013 Here is the thing, prior to being in a LTR and chatting up girls, it was not uncommon at times for girls to SAY they had a BF. This is understandable to me for several reasons (legit reasons, sh*t test, excusing herself from the burden) in a way that most guys or girls easily recognize. The waitress was not getting a barage of compliments or any for that matter but the context of the conversation was flirtatous in a "networking" kind of way with an intuitive understanding of her situation. I have discounted the whole thing as is. I still feel like its me just getting re-immersed in this whole dating process and finding someone who actually did pique my interest.
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