BC1980 Posted November 16, 2013 Posted November 16, 2013 I also think ignoring flushes out their feelings as well. It will make them realize if they actually care enough to reach out and try again. 1
mysteriouschic Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 My ex has tried to contact me 3 times. The first time I responded stupidly and it was a booty call. I went into no contact after he sent me a text to say "Are you awake?" a few more weeks later today he texted me "Hi" . I've been 2 months no contact with him now his messages seem to change each time. The reason I'm ignoring him is because I've moved on and if I do speak to him I'm not sure what I want and he has a girlfriend so I want to avoid getting into any possible love triangle. It seems ignoring really works at making the ex miss you. I always thought at some point they will give up.
realfriends Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 Although I have only been in NC for 30 days, I have gone through Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, and soon Christmas. I plan on remaining no contact based on the fact that I simply have not healed yet. I feel like there is no positive outcome to responding to a text from an ex about the holidays. If anything it'll only set you back. I believe however, once you are completely healed you should be able to because it wont affect you anymore. I know that when I got my Thanksgiving text from my ex, I read it at least 5 times trying to make something out of nothing. Its pointless. If they want to talk to you, they should make it loud and clear. 1
BC1980 Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 Although I have only been in NC for 30 days, I have gone through Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, and soon Christmas. I plan on remaining no contact based on the fact that I simply have not healed yet. I feel like there is no positive outcome to responding to a text from an ex about the holidays. If anything it'll only set you back. I believe however, once you are completely healed you should be able to because it wont affect you anymore. I know that when I got my Thanksgiving text from my ex, I read it at least 5 times trying to make something out of nothing. Its pointless. If they want to talk to you, they should make it loud and clear. I deleted my ex's Thanksgiving text. No need to open up any line of communication.
xUnknown Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 I hear ya on this. As I was told from someone close to me, women (especially those who are stubborn - like my ex), aren't going to go out of their way and out of the blue want to reconcile. They aren't going to walk up to your front door and kick it in, because that's not them. Instead, they'll come up, tap at the door to see if you answer. That's how they are, they're stubborn, embarrassed, don't want to admit they're wrong, so they take a quieter approach to the situation. They aren't going to rip off the bandaid and go right it at it, instead, they'll pick at it...trying to ease their way in and slowly peal off the bandade - because thats the only way they can do it and keep part of their dignity. I retract my previous statement - my ex came back. Drove 3.5 hours, showed up unexpected and admitted her wrongs and wanted to try again. I can't say that I am going to take her back - because right now, I'm not. I want to...so much. But I want to give a "new" relationship a new start. Having the bad thoughts of the old relationship will just hurt the chances at the new one starting. I plan on going NC for a few months, forgive her, then re-connect.
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