Bad day :(

[Jenniferxo1]

I've been in no contact with my ex for 17 days, just as I thought things were starting to get better I bump into him. We go to the same university and he ends up walking past and COMPLETELY blanks me! No smile or a friendly hello. And the worst of all he was wearing a £90 jacket that I had got him for his birthday!

 

I don't understand how he can do this, someone I used to talk to and see everyday and now we act like complete strangers. I feel as though I've gone back to day 1, I can't stop crying and I can't believe someone I had been with for 3 years can act as though they don't even know me. I can't cope anymore all I want is my best friend and boyfriend back. I want to contact him but I know it wont make things better..

 

Any advice/help is much appreciated

[GeorgesIsntAtHome]

I've been in no contact with my ex for 17 days, just as I thought things were starting to get better I bump into him. We go to the same university and he ends up walking past and COMPLETELY blanks me! No smile or a friendly hello. And the worst of all he was wearing a £90 jacket that I had got him for his birthday!

 

I don't understand how he can do this, someone I used to talk to and see everyday and now we act like complete strangers. I feel as though I've gone back to day 1, I can't stop crying and I can't believe someone I had been with for 3 years can act as though they don't even know me. I can't cope anymore all I want is my best friend and boyfriend back. I want to contact him but I know it wont make things better..

 

Any advice/help is much appreciated

 

I don't understand people like that either, one day you're the most important person in their lives, the next you're no more than the gum they remove from Under their shoe.... but other than to tell you the clichés you've probably already heard millions times, like he's clearly not Worth it, and with time that crushing feeling will dissipate, there isnt much you can do, other than, you know, use his behavior to help cionvince yourself that you're better off without him

 

hang in there, rejection of any kind sucks, but you will get over it with time and move on, just don't be afraid to be angry and sad, dont repress those feelings, let it out, time will heal the rest

 

also, he could be behaving like that for many reasons, shame, shy, feels bad about it, maybe he was feeling weird Inside and repressed it, maybe he just tried to look tough, who knows... just dont get over all the senarios, it will only mess you up in the end

 

best of luck

Edited November 13, 2013 by GeorgesIsntAtHome

[GeneralJennyJenn]

If you guys were together for 3 years then he is putting on an act by ignoring you as he walked by. Why he did this could be for several reasons

1- he didn't want to stir up any hopes

2- he's a jerk

3- he's trying to protect himself

Its hard I have been through 2 major break ups and they are never easy. A breakup is right up there with death, you experience the same stages but what's worst with a break up is the person is still ALIVE and it becomes their choice not to be in your life anymore. Hang in there, the redundant phrase 'time heals all wounds' is in fact true if you let it. But me I am not doing so good with that these days.

[Jenniferxo1]

Thank you for all your replies

 

I've just found out that he's on a dating website, listed as looking for nothing serious..

I don't understand, is he trying to replace me already? I can't even look at another guy like that yet alone think about dating already.

[Reels]

Thank you for all your replies

 

I've just found out that he's on a dating website, listed as looking for nothing serious..

I don't understand, is he trying to replace me already? I can't even look at another guy like that yet alone think about dating already.

Why worry? They are faster than you think.. No matter if it has to be ultimately bad or good, but point is they are faster than you had thought.

[GeneralJennyJenn]

In my experience now with both of my long term exes, both immediately jumped into unhealthy relationships as soon as we broke up.

 

The first one dated a girl for only a month and got her preggars (way to go!)

The second one (the current toxic ex that made me bonkers recently) current girlfriend has already filed a order of protection against him

So as you can see, guys who date or get into a relationship too quickly often end up worst off then where they were before as these relationships were suppose to be rebounds but both of my exes got trapped by their current gf/wife.

 

So more than likely your ex is trying to fill a void, that space you used to occupy. Men it seems are not good at being alone, they just don't seem to handle that well. Another thing is men are sexual creatures, he may just be looking for booty calls.

 

But regardless of WHY, it doesn't matter. It only matters that he has made his choice and its up to you and me to decide how we react to those choices. And I myself have not reacted well as you know.

 

Hang in there and try not to snoop on your ex online (I am guilty of this as well). All the snooping does is remind you painfully of the rejection your feeling right now. It just adds salt to the wound.