FitChick Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 A lot of self esteem and relationship beliefs cause this anxiety. When you eliminate some of those beliefs you will see a marked improvement in your anxiety level. Too bad I am not allowed to post a link to the article because you have to pay for this therapy, like all therapy, so PM me and I'll give you the link. Here is a list of some limiting beliefs you can eliminate: I can’t do anything right.If a woman isn’t attracted to a man initially, she never will be.I’m a bother to people.I’m a dangerous person.I’m annoying.I’m a loser.I’m broken.I’m inferior.I’m not acceptable.I’m not attractive.I’m not interesting.I’m ugly.I’m unlovable/not lovable.I’m weird.It’s wrong to show sexual interest in a woman.It’s wrong to be attracted to women.It’s wrong to be turned on by women.My sexual desire is bad.People aren’t interested in me.Relationships are difficult.There’s something wrong with me.Women don’t want nice guys.Women don’t want to be bothered.Women don’t want to talk to guys.Women want more financial security than I could provide.Women want men who are assertive and get what they want.Women want attractive men.Women want interesting men.Women want men who are confident / flirtatious.Women want men who are witty / make them laugh.Women want men who treat them badly.Women want men with exciting lifestyles.Women want men with money and stability.Women want popular guys.Women want security/to be protected physically.Women want successful men.
jba10582 Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 An interesting story relates to what you are saying. A golfer focused on where NOT to hit the ball and kept hitting the ball close to where he did NOT want it to go. He hired a psychologist to help him with his "anxiety". He was told to focus on NOT hitting the golf ball in the hole. He looked at him like he was just plain crazy but did it anyway. It worked! The subconscious does not understand negation in way that he thought. AND him focusing on what NOT to do was actually focusing on what to do. i.e. Whatever you do, Do NOT think about elephants. Do NOT think about elephants. Do NOT think about large gray animals with trunks, tusk and large ears. Why are thinking about elephants? Focus on what you do want.
PJKino Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 I go by results when youve had nothing but failure/rejection common sense tells you that youre not attractive to women Im not int othe Tony Robbins pollyana view of the world where thinkign positiviely magically gives you results i know better
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