Celie Posted December 21, 2004 Posted December 21, 2004 i have been in a complicated relationship where my bf truly loves me but it's pretty obvious i love him that much bit more, which has caused a lot of probs/fights. he has a tendency to be dark, on the verbally-abusive side (which actually he has curbed), hot/cold & when someone is pulling away from you all the time it drives you crazy! (& u act it!) we live together (in a tiny space) & recently he had been being really distant & told me he felt uncomfortable & was unsure about himself & if he could properly be in our relationship, etc. he refused that it was a breakup speech tho. couple weeks later he is acting like a doll (!?!) but i asked him to move out. he seems to think this move will save our relationship. i say maybe. i do feel i have sum dignity back but i'm afraid he will jst revert back to his old behavior eventually & also, when u move out is there any way to move forward again from that? we r suddenly getting along swimmingly but i'm about to leave for xmas for a few days. i wonder if i should set up a NC sitch so i can get my head together? (tho on sum level this could cause us more problems b/c we r getting along so well) i know the answer lies in what I want but i'm confused. i guess i'd like to give it 1 more chance but our "playing field" so to speak needs to be evened out b/c he always has the upper hand. any advice?
tattoomytoe Posted December 21, 2004 Posted December 21, 2004 i moved out of my bf and my home. it has helped with our relationship.
MikeE Posted December 21, 2004 Posted December 21, 2004 Just doesn't seem like something you should have to do. I think that when you need to move out to save a relationship, it simply isn't worth saving. Relationships work or they don't, it's that simple. Nothing is gained from forcing it.
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