TylerDurdenn Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 For the last two days me and my ex have been texting constantly, then all of a sudden today she says - I'm glad we can be friends, I enjoy talking to you I said I want to be your friend, but it's too painful knowing I'll never have you again She says Never say never I said Ok.. I've enjoyed texting you though it's nice She says Me too, it's made me miss you Talk about mixed messages? Can anyone make any sense of that!?
Philosoraptor Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 No, it makes no sense.... that you're continuing to hurt yourself by keeping in contact with someone who dumped you. She's keeping enough hope alive in you to have you as an option and to boost her own ego. If she knows you are still pining over her she has no need to worry about what she does... as her backup option (you) are there to ease her fall. 8
d0nnivain Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 For your own sanity, I would assume "never say never" is just a turn of phrase & she doesn't want to get back together. If you can't or won't do that, point blank ask her if she wants to get back together. Not that you asked, but if you want her back, being friends with her is just hurting you over & over every day. Why are you doing that to yourself? 2
organizedchaos Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 For the last two days me and my ex have been texting constantly, then all of a sudden today she says - I'm glad we can be friends, I enjoy talking to you I said I want to be your friend, but it's too painful knowing I'll never have you again She says Never say never I said Ok.. I've enjoyed texting you though it's nice She says Me too, it's made me miss you Talk about mixed messages? Can anyone make any sense of that!? Then how about point blank asking her out for a date? See how she responds. If she says no, then stop talking to her. 2
Nyclovin Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 A wise man named lil Wayne once said , f that b... Feel free to extrapulate 2
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 13, 2013 Author Posted November 13, 2013 You're all right. If I haven't seen her by the weekend then I'm done.
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 14, 2013 Author Posted November 14, 2013 "I am just enjoying reconnecting with you at the moment" ????
Philosoraptor Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 "I am just enjoying reconnecting with you at the moment" ???? Fancy way of saying she's keeping you on the hook. But really it shouldn't matter what it means, since you're moving on anyways. Just delete, ignore, and block. Have a wonderful day
radiodarcy Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 on your behalf this girl is starting to piss me off. she seems to enjoy dangling you on a string for her own amusement. the longer you allow her to do this, the less incentive she has to make a definitive decision (if she even intends to). i would advise you not to respond. you're only prolonging your agony even further. and she'll continue to drag this out as long as you let her...
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 14, 2013 Author Posted November 14, 2013 What did I do so wrong to deserve this? I asked her "please have the dignity not to mess me about" to which she replied "I hate seeing you hurt and I'd never do that to you", this was about 2 weeks ago so what has changed?
mammasita Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 Why are you even talking to her and feeding her ego? That's all this is. The smartest thing you can do is cut the cord.
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 14, 2013 Author Posted November 14, 2013 I'm done. You all must think I'm so stupid for what I have been doing, but I genuinely thought I had a shot. You all made me see the other side of things. Thank you.
radiodarcy Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 I'm done. You all must think I'm so stupid for what I have been doing, but I genuinely thought I had a shot. You all made me see the other side of things. Thank you. there's nothing stupid about thinking you had a chance - - or genuinely thinking you did. We've all been there. I've allowed myself to be strung along for weeks, months - - and in some cases even years . Why? Because I took to heart the things that were being said to me. Words can be powerful and lead us to believe what we want to believe. But when actions don't follow, it's only a matter of time before you hit rock bottom; at which point - -there's nowhere else to go but up
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 14, 2013 Author Posted November 14, 2013 I could never do what she's doing to me to anyone, it's so cruel. Oh well life goes on.
Reels Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 No, it makes no sense.... that you're continuing to hurt yourself by keeping in contact with someone who dumped you. She's keeping enough hope alive in you to have you as an option and to boost her own ego. If she knows you are still pining over her she has no need to worry about what she does... as her backup option (you) are there to ease her fall. You nailed it.
radiodarcy Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 I could never do what she's doing to me to anyone, it's so cruel. Oh well life goes on. Indeed. This is why I have a tendency to be blunt when I'm not/no longer interested. My conscience won't allow me to string someone along like that. It's just not right.
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 14, 2013 Author Posted November 14, 2013 She just text me saying she was in a restaurant with one of her girlfriends. However I was in the exact same restaurant at the exact same time, she wasn't there. There isn't another of these restaurants within 50 miles. ****
radiodarcy Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 Have you tried asking her not to contact you anymore? She's clearly not respecting your boundaries. I have no idea why she would tell you she was somewhere she wasn't other than to jerk your chain. Which is exactly what you asked her not to do. Is there any way you can block her number or - - if you're willing - - change it altogether? It may seem drastic. But this isn't healthy for you.
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 15, 2013 Author Posted November 15, 2013 Have you tried asking her not to contact you anymore? She's clearly not respecting your boundaries. I have no idea why she would tell you she was somewhere she wasn't other than to jerk your chain. Which is exactly what you asked her not to do. Is there any way you can block her number or - - if you're willing - - change it altogether? It may seem drastic. But this isn't healthy for you. It's done. I told her last night that she had lied to me and that I never want to speak to her again, I know she won't initial contact.
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