Should I forgive and show myself as a fool ?

[Vreez fyieqqa]

basically me and bf were in a relationship around 1year . we're in the same age and started as a friends . I like him because of his sense of humor .

Im the one who had a crush on him first .. I dont have a very attractive appearance compare to all his ex's .. but what I can say that my feelings towards him is so noble . I love him for what he is . But unfortunately because of my less attractive appearance and Im the one who had a crush on him first he end up taking granted of me most of all the time . He always made me feel very insecure by adding such beautiful bitch and hoe in facebook .. .

He also do flirt with some girls behind my back but because myself Im not the type of queen control so I just end up forgiving ..I gave him full trust again2 and again .

He actually got a job . He got a very good position and earn a lot .. As a teenager he actually not suppose to earn that much but i guess its his luck .. since he hold that position he always tend to lose himself .. sometimes he is not like the person I used to know before .. Kinda sad

but the thing is .. recently .. Im studying and having a very important examinations .. in the middle of the session he seems to totally neglect me .. we were uncontactable utmost 2 weeks .. then one day I meet him and asked him to confessed what's wrong? ..

He meanly said that he had no feelings on me anymore .. He unfortunately forgotten me since he had all his friends together .

and he found a crush who is 100% better than me .. I felt so hurt.. after all I had sacrifice and a year of relationship he just bluntly confess that thing without feeling guilty .. I suffered depression for utmost 2 weeks .. Its so risks because since Im actually having my major examinations ..

but thanks god help me alot .. I manage to go trough it ..

after a feww weeks .. he actually came back to me and ask for making up .. he told me that he still in love with me .

he started to text and called me as usual we did . I feel so hurt but because thinking about the value of our relationship I tent to forgive and tried to except him back ..

but i guess it is just not the same person u be when u've hurt ..

He is not satisfied with my changes and confess me yesterday that the cheating matter was a joke !!!

all of it was a joke .. the girl who ''unfortunately 100% better than me'' actually does not exist ! .. it is all a tease .. he just want to play and make fun of me ..

he want to test my love ..and he said that I should be happy that what Im thinking about all this time wasn't true.. that the bitch does not exist ... that his loyal and just playing around ... i should forgive him ..

Im like W?? ... that point I really feel like killing myself .. again I feel terribly hurt as how i did weeks ago .. i really feel like a fool !totally like a stupid person.. He said that his giving me time to heal and his coming back .. do u think that I should take my time and give him the chance ?

how to make him realize his mistake ? ...

[Zahara]

I think you should stay away from a guy like this that chooses to insult you and break you down this way. You sound very young and naive and the fact that you view yourself negatively, in that you compare yourself to others and bring yourself down, this guy is going to add to your insecurities.

 

Love doesn't treat someone this way. It doesn't ridicule them, it doesn't diminish your value. It is supposed to support you, make you feel good, valued and accepted.

 

He wasn't testing you. He was just being a cruel asswhole. I have a feeling things didn't work with the other girl, and he came running back to you using the excuse that he was testing you to get you to feel bad so that you would take him back.

 

Besides, do you really want to be with someone that treats you so badly. You really need to stop looking down on yourself and find more value in who you are as a person, instead of how you look compared to the rest.

 

You need to focus on your studies and forget about boys. At least until you feel more secure about yourself.

[HorseLuck]

Hell no. Forget about this one. He revealed his true colors. You can do much better, there are guys who wouldn't mess with your heart in that way (which is just cruel). He was not just kidding around. That is a lie; there was probably in reality, another girl in the picture.

 

If you have self esteem issues, he's aware and will use it to his advantage. Don't be the girl he resorts to as a last option. You should cut contact with him. Feel better..it's going to be difficult to heal from this but you can do it. You did nothing wrong..you put your trust into this person. Don't contemplate suicide (if you are) over a loser like this. And if you need to talk, you can always post on these boards. Plenty of people to help you out.

[Grumpybutfun]

Vreez:

What an odd thing for him to do. Playing games with his girlfriend's feelings is not cool. I think you should concentrate on your studies and let this person go as he isn't very nice to you. Looks aren't everything and I like what you said about being noble. I know that would be something I would value in any girlfriend of mine.

I always say that if the other person isn't treating you as well as you treat them, then you can do much better.

Good Luck,

Grumps

[todreaminblue]

I understand issues of self esteem,I have them myself....but......to you i say..... no one has a right to make you feel any less than you feel for yourself.....you have to know what you have to offer, if th eguy cant see who you are what you are and how you could enrich his life...find a guy who will look just a little bit dceeper than the peripheral view......appreciate all you are .....life is fleeting...dont waste it on someone who cant love you the way you deserve to be loved...dont play games with him or believe he will change..... stuffs with your heart and mind..if he was truly loyal no loyal man woudl do that to a woman they cared about......just say goodbye....and wish him well ..i send hope for happiness your way..deb

[emz23]

Guy sounds like a total jerk.

Even if there was no other girl what gives him the right to "test" you?

I also think you have self esteem issues and this guy is no good for you. He doesn't make you happy so why waste your time on him?