What age?

[Buns]

Hi all

 

Just wondering, at what age did you MEET your husband, or father of your children? I'm 25 and single, and worried that I'm never going to meet that special person, and will go from meaningless relationship to meaningless relationship. I definatly want a child, not now, but some day, and I would love to get married. At what age do I start getting worried that time is ticking on and I'm still alone??

 

Thanks for your answers

[Philosoraptor]

I'd never worry, as worry will just alter your decision making process. You'd be better being alone than being with someone you settle on. Just be patient and trust yourself, and you'll find the right person.

 

My fiancee met her future husband (me) at 24.

[d0nnivain]

I was 39.

 

Relax. You have time.

[ThomasD]

At 25 it's good that you are thinking about this, but 25 is NOT too old to reach your goal. Remember that you're looking for a partnership - so it's as much about BEING the right person, as MEETING the right person.

 

My data by itself probably won't give you much encouragement, but for the record and in the interest of accurate disclosure: My wife and I were both 22 when we met, she had a few previous, not-very-serious boyfriends, I had a girlfriend for about 7 months at the end of High School and nobody in between. We married at 23, both virgins. Our oldest child was born when she was 29 and youngest when she was 38.

[ScienceGal]

I'm 32 and I haven't met him yet. I'm not worried.

[winterpast]

• I was 18 and DH was 20 when we met.
  
• I was 22 and DH was 24 when we married.
  
• I was 26 and DH was 28 when we had our son.
  

 

My Bestfriend just married her DH in 2012. She was 28 (I don't know his age).

 

You have plenty of time. I know people who were in their 30's when they got married and started having kids.

 

My biggest advice is to not rush into anything out of fear that you are running out of time! Do things when you feel it's the right time with the right person.

[ThomasD]

. . . Our oldest child was born when she was 29 and youngest when she was 38.

I should add that our oldest kid married at 32 after about 3 years of dating, and I don't know about plans for kids. The youngest is 25, unmarried, and I'm not aware of any current serious dating relationship.

[dichotomy]

At what age do I start getting worried that time is ticking on and I'm still alone??

 

For kids I would say don't panic until your 30's. At any age you can find someone and not be alone. They say half of all marriages fail, so be in no rush and find the right person. You could rush to get married in two years, have kids and be divorced by 30. You are in control if your going to engage in meaningless relationships until you find a good partner.

 

To answer your other question.

 

I met my first wife at 23 (officially married much later). No kids. Poor choice on my part.

 

I met my second wife at 38, who came with one kid, and then we had one.

Edited November 14, 2013 by dichotomy

[melell]

I just wanted to say that I am 26, and am thinking the exact same thing. It is not a pleasant feeling.

[Lauriebell82]

I was 25, when I met my husband. Married him at 29.

[Eggplant]

I'm 26. I'm not jumping into any relationships without seriously scoping out the water first. If I get to 35 and have found nobody, that's what sperm donors are for.