irc333 Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 Its funny, I had taken a break from online dating....but I still check out the POF site from time to time in my local, more rural areas. Same faces, all the time constantly. Even noticed some return veterans that had added a paragraph to their profile saying, "I've been on and off this danged site, with no such luck, please help get me off this site!" One was lementing that she's resorted to only taking "Selfies" in a mirror only because she doesn't want to have to ask her friends to take a photo to be placed on a dating site....guess it's hear dirty little secret. LOL I have already emailed said women already, but to only be ignored, but yet they whine about how they cannot find anyone. Anyhow, it's funny seeing the same faces over an over again, but you'd think, as a woman, being limited by geography you'd give the average Joe's a shot. I mean, you don't really have a shot at Mr. GQ if you're living in a po-dunk rural area unless you're willing to travel an hour or so do to do, right? But yet, I've already emailed some women who I could meet in the blink of an eye just to give it a shot and see what happens, only to be ignored...but yet they continue to be a permanent fixture on POF. Wonder if they should just relocate? lol
Imported Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 (edited) You seem to think they owe you something because you're the last guy at the bar. They don't have to go home with anyone, that is their choice. "Choice", you are not theirs. It would seem, being alone or going with you, they'd rather be alone. That is not a problem with you or them. That is just what they choose and how it is. Get over it. Edited November 13, 2013 by Imported 6
Pretty.in.Pink Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 Rethink how you "sell" yourself and your whole approach to dating. "Pick me otherwise you'll be alone forever" is not a good tactic. 1
pteromom Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 You don't know they are looking for Mr. GQ (unless that's what they say in their profile, in which case, never mind.) They are just looking for someone to connect with. Not just a nice guy who will be good enough, but someone who really understands them. Someone who is interesting, has similar humor, maybe similar interests who they can connect with. And you should want the same thing. A woman who is a social butterfly and loves skydiving and gourmet cooking wouldn't be happy with a guy who likes to sit at home with pizza and wings and video games. Or vice versa. A guy who likes cutting sarcasm isn't going to be happy with a woman who is super serious and takes offense to everything he says. Or vice versa. It's not just about finding a nice person. It's about that CONNECTION. If you want a woman to respond to you, read her profile, and tailor your message to her specifically. If she's a joker, write a funny message. If she's focused on accomplishments, share yours. If she's a romantic, be a little cheesy. I'm not saying to be someone you aren't (make sure the woman you are writing is someone YOU connect with), but to show the parts of yourself that you think that particular woman will connect with. Being a woman on OLD is tiresome. 50% "do you like oral" and other inappropriate sexual comments, 40% "hey how are you" from guys with 2 sentence profiles. 5% off-the-charts-crazy. And 5% "normal guys" who seem nice, but you have to go through the other messages to find them and see if there's a connection there. At least that's what it was like when I did it, and I assume it hasn't changed THAT much. You have to stand out, and you have to connect.
Author irc333 Posted November 13, 2013 Author Posted November 13, 2013 Rethink how you "sell" yourself and your whole approach to dating. "Pick me otherwise you'll be alone forever" is not a good tactic. Actually, I have had better luck with meeting women that live about an hour from me in the big city, I've pretty much given up on the local yokels. lol The ones that are remotely attractive are 1. Married. 2. Have a boyfriend. 3. The remaining are on dating sites and don't get out much because the only options they have are: 1. People over 65 2. Toothless rednecks Their social lives in general are nil because all their friends/co-workers are married with children. If you want a woman to respond to you, read her profile, and tailor your message to her specifically. If she's a joker, write a funny message. If she's focused on accomplishments, share yours. If she's a romantic, be a little cheesy. Been there, done that....like I've said, I've had better luck with women I have to travel a distance to see. You have to stand out, and you have to connect. I have and had done that...just the local ladies have unrealistic expectations in a mate.
Recommended Posts