Emotionally not ready but live together!

[ellesbells29]

I have been sleeping with a guy (who i have been friends with for about 6 yrs prior). I used to like him back in the day but always knew he was a bit of a player. Anyway, we slept together and this became a regular thing. Few events unfolded which resulted in him moving into my house. This was only going to be temporary but i suggested he move in as i have a spare room. Nearly 6 weeks have past now and we share my bedroom (my bed), bathroom etc. A live in couple. However he has been fairly straight with me by saying he doesnt want a girlfriend! And if we sleep with anyone else we have to tell each other! What the! So last weekend i lost it because he was talking to a girl (i overlooked on his phone and i know he had been trying to tee himself up one night with her a few weekends back..) so i said no more, its not fair on me and to get to the other room. He got drunk the next night and said he was afraid to fall in love with me. What am i to think? i asked him about it the next day and he said he shouldnt have said anything and give me false hope!

Can someone please fill me in on what is going on? I am so confused!!

[veggirl]

Tell him to move out.

 

He clearly wants to date other girls / sleep with other girls, while using you for a home. Real classy guy.

 

Just tell him you aren't comfortable with the arrangement anymore and he has X amt of time (a week should be enough, surely he has friends with couches) to move out.

[superb]

Sounds like a relationship of his convenience and he's using you.

[ellesbells29]

Yep thats basically what all our friends are saying too. And its a struggle because i know i deserve 100% from a guy, but my feelings are getting in the way and i like having him there as we do get along.

[crederer]

Even if what he was saying is completely true (which I doubt) do you really want to be in a relationship with a guy that clearly has commitment issues?