Dankoopa Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Since November 5 she's been offline and I just can't sleep well. I'm worried about her. I wish I could be right there at her side to help her but I can't and it pains me that I'm unable to see her cause she's going through chemo. What should I do... all I'm able to do is leave a message saying get well though I feel its not enough
pteromom Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Leave a message letting her know you are here for her if/when she needs to talk. Send her some flowers. That's really all you can do - everyone processes cancer in a different way, and it is possible she is processing by withdrawing from those she cares about. Don't take it personally. Just be ready to be there for her when she's ready. 1
Els Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 Seconding what pteromom says. Do take care of yourself during this time, too. 1
almond Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 I had a brief scan through your previous posts, and I'd be very cautious if I were you. You say in a previous post that this girlfriend of yours doesn't have Skype or even a webcam? But you're already talking about having kids and growing old together? Have you only ever seen pictures? You've also mentioned quite a few dramatic events on her end - depression, her brother breaking her wrist, her friend hurting her...and now lung cancer at the age of 19. Hmm. I am not accusing anyone of anything, but as I said....tread carefully. I suggest you take a step back and get more information and some concrete proof of all of this before emotionally investing. 4
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