born2ride Posted December 21, 2004 Posted December 21, 2004 I am totally confused. I met this great looking guy a couple of months ago. Whenever we see each other, things are great. He's kind, caring, etc... He acts as if I am the only girl in the world. The problem is, he doesn't ever initiate a phone call! ughh... We had sex the first time we met and we've spent numerous nights together since...gone out to dinner, whatever...he brings me my coffee in the morning and sometimes invites me to stay even though he has to leave for work. My question is, is this just a booty call, or does he have an interest in me other than just a booty call???? I'm just totally confused!
heartburn Posted December 21, 2004 Posted December 21, 2004 If it was just a booty call, he would have disappeared the first time you guys had sex.
SoleMate Posted December 21, 2004 Posted December 21, 2004 Well...we can't turn back time...but if we could, I would definitely refrain from sex until your confusion was lessened and you were sure that he was what you were looking for. Now you're attached to someone whose feelings for you are unclear. And you want more clarity, AS LONG AS it lets you think that he feels for you at least as much as you do for him. Right? Back to reality and the present day...think about what more you would like from him. Is it JUST phone calls, or would you like anything from the following menu: exclusivity, acknowledged gf/bf status, to meet his friends, more of his time, more expressions of caring, more "I love you"s ? And then in a not too heavy way, ask him if there is anything you could be doing to meet his needs better. Take care of whatever he says. Then mention your own requests, and ask him to meet the ones that are most important to you. This may seem difficult, but it is an essential way of making sure that you both are happy in this r/s - if you care enough about it and him to want this to last, that is. A person would not take such trouble with a ONS or a fling - you just assume that there needs are short term and largely physical, just like your own.
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