sweetpea01 Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 Hey guys, This past weekend I went up to Tahoe with my bf and his best friend. They go almost every weekend, but since I'm going out of town over the holidays, I went along to spend a little time with my guy before I go out of town. I know his best friend really well too, since I've been dating my bf for a little over 2 yrs. But, it seemed like the whole time in the car, he wanted to knock down the idea of long term relationships. He kept saying how crappy they were, and how we're all in out golden yrs (we're like 24/25) and how we should be out having fun/partying/dating, etc. and get married at 30-something. He wasnt talking to us directly, but it more or less summed us up. He said that ppl get so caught up in ppl they arent going to eventually marry...and how its such a damn waste of time. I was so annoyed by this...and not just cause I disagree, but cause I'm wondering if he spends all his time telling my bf that he and I are headed nowhere. I know it's not that he dislikes me...but do guys do this? Is it cause he's single and hating it, or what? Sweetpea
SoleMate Posted December 21, 2004 Posted December 21, 2004 The friend's opinion doesn't matter, unless you think your bf is listening and believing, and that goes against YOUR plans. It should not be too hard to say, "Wow, Tom sure had some points to make about LTR the other day in the car. Do you know where that's coming from?" And later, "What's your view?" Note, this only works if you treat it as a neutral conversation, not a loaded one that may blow up in your bf's face.
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